Anyone else had to just drop their career all together?

So I had my first baby at 38 and now she’s almost two and I think we’re ready for baby #2 and of course there’s no room for delay as my age is something I do factor in. Not because I’ve struggled to get pregnant thankfully but because I am at a point I life where I feel like it’s not something I wanna put off at this stage.
However I’m self employed and it’s the type of job that just isn’t complimentary to being a mother. It’s a bit of an all or nothing job so I’ve had to decide that I might have to hit the pause button while I finish completing my family as that’s comes above everything.
But I’m also sad and struggling to let go. I spoke to my friend she said maybe I didn’t want another baby bad enough!!! She said if I wanted to have another baby that I wouldn’t care about my job.
But that just isn’t true at all. I think it’s perfect normal to accept that my work might have to go on the back burner but I’m also aloud to be a bit sad.
I’m more than being someone’s mother but for now I don’t see how I can work and focus on bringing life into the world.

Has anyone else been in the same boat?
How did you handle it? How did you come out the other side?

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5 months into being laid off because I chose not to sit in Houston traffic for hrs and instead just be a mom. Well, technically I guess 7mo (since giving birth). I knew I wasn't going to travel anymore. I've been traveling solo for almost a decade for work and when I met my guy I thought I would work my job remotely and just travel with him wherever so I could be with him and live in the camper and we'd be a happy little family. He blew that up early on but my new company (I was with only 1yr) let me go because once I got home they told me no more remote, I'd have to drive 63 miles one way to the home office and I said uh no thanks. Been there done that, not losing that kind of time with my 12 week old at the time.
Best thing that's ever happened to me!!!! Sure I'm going through savings and investments to keep my bills paid but downsized everything to save money and just finally started getting used to life in the slow lane with my sweet baby girl. I'll eventually have to work again but this is nice for now.

I have 2 very nuerodivergent boys and left an abusive situation I had to give up a whole career I've been without work for 9 months and finally found a job that completely works around my boys I was blessed with amazing bosses and good pay. But it's been a difficult road to get here and nowhere near the career I had.

Wow what a journey you’ve been on. It just shows everyone’s on their own path in this thing called motherhood. I’ve learnt motherhood is about making choices. Some will be hard choices and some will be easy. But it’s just got to work for your and your little family and that’s the bottom line isn’t it

I left my career in collision repair to be a stay at home mom. I lost my first pregnancy with my husband likely due to the chemical exposures at work. My husband then asked me/told me to quit if we wanted children (we both did desperately.) so; I quit, we now have 4 children, 6 and under.

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Am I being money shamed? 🤔

I’m pretty sure I need to throw the whole husband away at this point 😐

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Im 8+3, when did people tell work?

I feel so anxious about telling work. I didn't want to until further down the line, but due to my job I may have to, due to them doing certain risks assesments. I dont feel my Director will be understanding, as we are a new company and I am the service manager. We are just starting out and he is panicking about money. I have been in the role over a year.

Also ontop, I don't know how to tell him.

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