Why do you think this is?
A while back, I did a couple polls and the conclusions were that we (broadly) can’t stand our MILs and (generally) struggle with our own mothers visiting as well.
These are the women that are supposed to be giving us the wisdom of the “village”. They’re supposed to be our intimate support system but most of us feel far from supported by them.
Why? 🤔
A) You think people in general are more prone to personality disorders which make mils and moms more narcissistic/toxic generally than maybe they were in the past. They’re less helpful and more stressful as a result.
B) People have less kids recently (historically speaking) so by the time they’re grandparents they’ve forgotten what it’s like, what moms need, etc. Their help is outdated/out of touch and lack perspective bc they have less experience. Even though they may be well-meaning, our villages have less kids so there’s less wealth of knowledge to learn from.
C) It may be a me problem. We as a society are more selfish/particular and feel more entitled to our “ideal” help. Or have more choices of who can be our “village”. So we’re less likely to tolerate unhelpful parents.