I don't know what to do

Here lately my s/o has been accusing me constantly of cheating. Just because we have had s** in 6 months(because I had a hysterectomy). So any little things he Nick picks over. He's constantly been going thru my phone. I can't leave him rn due to several underlying problems. But I don't how much more I can't put up with everything.

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Working parents

How on earth do people actually work and have kids of school age 😥 by the time you have done the morning commute you are starting work late then you have to leave work early to go pick them up!! I actually don't know how people do it? School clubs are also first come first served each term so cannot even guarantee your employer the same hours each term!

Relapse

A month ago I found a baggy in my husband’s laundry. I confronted him on it and we had a long genuine conversation. He admitted he relapsed. Told me he won’t do it again (silly me to believe it) and that was basically that. Today.. God.. yes God told me to go into the bathroom and search under the vanity. There is a lip where the sink goes and meets with the bottom half of the vanity. It’s a perfect gap on both sides to hide things. And I found a ton of paraphernalia. So this is how I want to handle this, I want to pick him up and drop him off at meetings (I found one already), I want him on my phone plan with a new number, and I want life 360. If he can not do these three things he needs to leave my home. When I think about what I need for once these are the three things I need to rebuild trust and move forward. Is it going to prevent him from using? Probably not.. but it will make me feel better. I was very understanding and nice the first time, but I will not tolerate this any longer. We have a newborn. This is inexcusable and I will not have him in my child’s life like this. So he needs to make the decision. If he chooses to leave over these three simple requests then I know he’s not ready to be sober. I asked my mother in law (yes we are close and I told her) if this was too much and she said absolutely not.. if anything it’s not enough. What do you think?

Where do I go from here..

So in a nutshell my husband and I got married just under 6months of knowing one another. I’ve been celibate before knowing him and few months into the marriage he has brought up that I wasn’t as intimate as a wife would be and fast forward a year I found out he has a hidden Instagram which he had followed over 200 or more of half naked women and women of a certain demographic so to say but hasn’t messaged any of them. He had this account hidden away from me for almost a year to which I found out by going through his phone at one point. We’ve spoken about it and his explanation was ‘because I wasn’t giving him the sexual intimacy part’ so just went else where to ‘seek’ it. Now we have a three month boy and it’s put me off completely sleeping with him because what hurt was he started this Instagram while I was pregnant. Now I just don’t see him the same anymore, it feels more of so a marriage of convenience and now I don’t know so I stay and try make it work or walk away. Where do I go from here..

Husbands confidence

My husband is still not confident having the baby on his own without me in the house 🙄 baby is 6 months. I have another older child who i need to be there for too and this is making it so hard. He is too scared to bath her and do basic care other than rock her to sleep. I have taught him as much as I can and we did a baby first aid course together. I think it's time to bite the bullet and just go out, let him sink or swim but I feel so bad for my baby. Any ideas? This is his first child, my other child has a different father.

Single mum

So my fiancee likes to say I act like a single mum…like it’s my doing??
He says it’s because I just get on with things opposed to asking for help
For example
He was standing by the door I was taking the laundry and I opened the door whilst holding the laundry basket still and he goes “why didn’t you ask me”
But if you wanted to you would, I’m perfectly capable of opening it myself so it doesn’t even cross my mind

Now I will ask him for help with things I can’t do or don’t have time to do but he always takes forever

He wants me to tell him to do the dishes and stuff like that but why does a grown man need telling to do the dishes if there’s dishes to be done uno
His mum and friend have said the same thing but he still says he wants me to ask

I don’t exclude him from anything I do with the kids but most of the time he decides not to come
He won’t even watch them for a couple hours in the evening so I can get a job 🙄

Surely if he feels like I’m a single mum it’s on him not me?

Potty Training 🚽

Curious about this and please feel free to add advice in comments. When did you start potty training your kiddo? What gender are they?