Is it just me?

I’m 34 weeks and nothing is ready. My hospital bag isn’t packed, the crib isn’t set up, all of baby’s stuff is in a corner in our room waiting to be sorted and washed because I have no space to put it. My husband has started jobs like painting the bathroom and not finished. I’ve asked him to build something and put up shelves which isn’t getting done and although he works full time I feel it’s holding me back from being able to organise things. I am starting to get annoyed with it all now. I feel like there’s no help and the flat is just getting on top of me now with all the clutter :-(

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U don’t need everything fully set up girl. And the hospital bag isn’t too hard to pack. At least just accomplish that so u don’t feel like ur getting nowhere while ur home

Don’t worry I’m the same, my room has been packed with baby stuff, I’m with parents atm, so we had a little sort out Monday on half packin a hospital bag, we have no storage in my house so some baby stuff is outside in the caravan and dotted around , so I feel exact same, I’ve not been to any classes or anything I still feel like it’s ages away even tho it’s not haha plus the is is my first idk what to expect!

Hey girl!
We recently moved house at 34 weeks preg and now coming up to 36 weeks still have no bag packed, no decorated nursery, no stack of nappies for when we get home and the car seat hasn't arrived yet 🤣
Don't worry though you don't need everything to be pergect the baby only needs you to be you at first.

I would maybe just get your hospital bag ready that can be done fairly quickly any bits for the bag you don't have just do an amazon order then at least thats that done (that's my plan today)

With regards to your husband you bith need to sit down and agree on one priority for him to get done as job 1 whilst you try to reduce anxiety and get your bag sorted. He will be feeling overwhelmed too. Try and get back on the same page as a team and the fog will lift xxx

Thank you ladies, I think I’m annoyed because we are already a full house so baby just has a literal corner in our room, but even if I could sort that out it would seem visually a lot more calmer. I also get annoyed at my husband as theres so much crap lying around like heavy boxes or stuff I shouldn’t / can’t really move and he doesn’t seem to think about me tripping over stuff etc. I swear I wish my parents had taught me DIY skills as I am useless and have to rely on help so I can’t just get on with what needs done

I’m the same, we’ve got to move house and that’s not happening until I’m 36 weeks 🫣 everything is brought just nothing is sorted!

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