Night shifts/feeding

My partner is going back to work soon, we’ve been super lucky as he’s managed to have 4 weeks paternity leave but my goodness - how do you manage night shifts/feeding when your partner returns to work?

We are only just managing at the moment with two of us and dreading him returning to work and how I’ll manage considering he’ll need enough sleep to actually be able to do his job. Advice appreciated!!

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Hey girl! When my boyfriend went to work I was dreading it also, it is sooooo much easier when you’re both home. My bf works 6:30am-4pm Monday to Friday and wakes up at 5am. I will do the middle of night feed, but if baby isn’t going back down for me and he’s already had 5-6hrs of sleep he’ll wake up and help me. You need rest too and can’t run on empty. I also have a hard time falling asleep after night feeds so sometimes my bf will even take the night feed as he can fall asleep fast afterwards. Find what works best for you both! My bf has also always done the last feed of day around 8-8:30pm.

I’ve always done shifts with my babies. Usually 8-1 or 9-2. Unless your husband does a job where it’s a safety risk if he’s operating on less sleep, he’ll manage. If he does truly need to be operating on more sleep, then let him take the first or early morning feed, and then take over more on weekends /nights before his days off

He takes either the start of the night until midnight or the morning from say 6am.

I EBF so largely do nights alone and then my partner takes baby for an hour 6-7 so I can have an hours nap before he leaves for work x

I often get my partner to do the last feed before bed. That way, you can get yourself settled and ready for bed. You could even get in an extra hour or two sleep. Then you will have more energy for the night feeds and your partner can get solid sleep through the night.
Beyond that, nap in the day to help you get through the day.

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