2 under 2 - more fear than joy?

i feel the exact same way, it’s gotten a lot better since i have started to feel kicks and know the gender but i still don’t feel as connected. i think thats just because i’m chasing my 15 month around all day😩😂

My two girls are 20 months apart and pregnancy with a toddler is very tough, 2 under 2’s for me was quite challenging as I was on my own everyday until my partner got home as I have no support and my second born was a very difficult baby. But each month has got easier xx

Hey! I’m not 2 under 2, I’m 2 under 3 but saw your post and really connected with it.

I’m due in September and my first born will be 2.5 years. I am terrified. I have no excitement at all and I’m living with guilt of even having another because I love my boy that much I can’t imagine him having to share me and his dad. I hate this pregnancy in terms of how I feel it’s make me so exhausted and In pain all time so feel I haven’t really connected with him at all.

But through it all I know when he’s here I’ll be in awe. And I just think to myself in giving my son a forever best friend and play mate.

I am terrified of 2 kids because my partner works such long hours so it’s going to be really hard adjustment but we will get through and you will too! Fear is kind of good because it means you care! If you didn’t care you wouldn’t feel that way and to me that shows you was meant to have that baby! X

Im in the same boat im so scared i genuinly dont know how ill cope as my 14 month old is so active & i contantly need to chase him around everywhere as hes always doing something he shouldnt be& doing that whilst having a newborn & running on no sleep but at the same time i just think that theyll be so close growing up & i think itll get easier as theyll always have someone to play with tbh its just the fear of the unknown xx

I’ve just had my second and completely can relate to how you are feeling! I was so scared on how I would be able to do it with a newborn and toddler, especially with the lack of sleep! I barely kept track of my pregnancy was so busy chasing around after my toddler, however I loved when I felt her kick and move! I’d day for me I just felt like I had no time to really connect while pregnant and just focused on my toddler!

But as soon as she arrived it was like she was never not here, she’s slotted right in and my toddler absolutely adores her! I’d also say pregnancy tiredness is way worse than newborn tiredness and it’s honestly so far been amazing!

You’ll smash it I’m sure ☺️

I had gotten pregnant when my son was 4 months old! I was terrified and honestly i felt like i was stealing something from him. But honestly he could care less! Hes 16 months old running around living his best life. He does a lot of solo independent play. And I have them both on a set sleeping routine!!
It worked out amazing!! i get to take care of his sister and he just plays all day. Even when I tried to engage with him and play with him he loves it, but sometimes he wants to play by himself! It was OK with me because at the end of the day it just gives me more time to engage with his sister. Both my babies have slept the night since 2-3 months old! I put them to bed at 9-10pm with their last bottle for the night. I keep it dark with a small night light kinda hidden. Try to keep it dark because sometimes whenever light hits your eyes it causes your brain to create a reaction and it signals to wake up. I also used the DreamNest bed to help me after feedings!