Do you force your kids to say sorry?

If they don't mean it, it takes away the power of forgiveness imo. But don't know how else to handle it...

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I think apologizing is less about how you feel and more about the person you offended, upset or harmed. As a child I will make my child say sorry or apologize to others if she was wrong regardless if she feels sorry. I would also explain to her why she was wrong and why apologizing is necessary. As an adult it will be her choice. Apologies can go a long way. I would hope that she does feel apologetic though.

Yes. If my kids do wrong they are expected to have a convo with us and why they were in the wrong. They are to apologize and say specifically for what too. Kids need to learn about taking accountability and their actions are theirs to control. I don’t care if it doesn’t feel good, these are emotions they need to learn to regulate so they can form proper and respectful relationships with people as they grow.

I first try to help them get there on their own like " You just hurt daddy, what do you think you should do?" But if they dont apologize they i tell them to say sorry.

I raised my kids to not automatically apologise, more so for big things, not like breaking a dish by mistake. When they apologise, I want them to know what they are apologising for and actually mean it, after having an actual think about it so its sincere and actually means something.

Yes
If he hurts someone, I will say 'check on him, see if he's okay' . I model that first before sorry.

I then do get him to say sorry. He may not fully mean it and I understand the theory - but agree - sometimes the other person needs the sorry more than they need to mean it

The conversation about why you need to check someone is okay and what (if anything) they did wrong and what can be done next time is just as important - more impirtant than the sorry - as that's the learning opportunity

However, we are very much, in the stage where if he hurts someone accidentally , he feels shame. And the shame turns to inward anger. We are trying to model , it's okay, I know you didn't mean to - it was an accident - but you still need to check he's okay because that"s how we care for each other

They need to learn when they did something that hurt someone or was wrong so yes ill make him but also explain why.

in our community

Are these red flags from my boyfriend and how do you move forward?

My boyfriend and I are on vacation and I was on my cycle and got blood on my bikini while we’re at the pool with our daughter. I accidentally sat on one of our daughters new stuffed animal and got a bit of blood on it. So I wrapped the stuffed animal with a towel and also quickly wrapped a towel around myself. As we’re walking away going to get our kid to go to our room, I realize my towel is falling off and ask him to plz grab the stuffed animal from me (which is wrapped in a towel) so I can keep my towel from falling off. He moves his hand away and says ew, then he goes I’m not just gonna touch that like that. So I go why are you acting like a damn sissy like you haven’t seen my blood before (he’s watched me give birth). So he gets so upset by my comment and starts telling me how I’m so disrespectful. I keep walking and tell him it’s not the time since our kid was coming up to us. Then, we get to the room and instead of letting me wash off first, he hops in the shower before I could even think about it. So eventually we talked and he apologized but I just don’t like that behavior and did not expect him to act like this in that moment. We’ve been together for yearss and I know he’s not a squeamish person when it comes to blood. So when I asked he basically said he felt it was gross that I expected him to just grab the stuffie without making sure it’s properly wrapped first when it was. But am
I crazy for feeling like it shouldn’t be that big of a deal for him to grab it with or without it being wrapped in a towel ? It’s my blood not a strangers. But anyway idk what’s up with men sometimes. He was so upset the rest of the day he told our daughter he didn’t wanna give her a hug or a kiss when she asked. Like yall he’s a good man when it comes to many things but he does stuff like this and I’m like wtf am I doing with him? We’re supposed to get married soon and I’m questioning all of that based on some of these things I’ve been noticing lately.

How are you doing it all?

My husband is not happy with our sexlife. I don't do it enough and don't do porn star performance.
I try to pour into myself regularly, skincare, hair, light makeup, dressing up, gym and dance classes.
He listed these things out like they were a problem. I'll ask him to watch the kids so I can xyz. Gym and dance classes are normally after I put the kids to bed but thats when he wants my time and attention.
He literally argued for an hour last night. He's done this 3 times, always late into the night when im not in the head space and super tired. By the time he finished his point and calmed down, I believe it was 3 am. And we didnt go to bed until 5 am. He wanted sex, I participated and performed it was enjoyable at first but then it got annoying. I was tired and these days sleep always sounds better than sex he just took so long to finish I was actually getting pissed off.
Today I woke up, I threw on jeans and a tshirt. Basic moisturizer and sunscreen no makeup and clipped my hair back. I wanted to cry. Im worried he's gonna keep complaining about my hobbies and I'll end up quitting to keep the peace.
I'm not perfect, dishes and laundry pile up, the hoise isnt always presentable and food isnt always done sometimes he comes home from work to cook and clean. He feels like hes always helping me with my job but no one is there to help him do his.
I have an appointment next month hoping the Dr can give me something to improve mood and productivity.

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First time mum & worrying.
He only really eats Weetabix with a mashed banana & potato waffles or potato based items and crisps or biscuits & yogurts. Occasionally eats chicken nuggets too.
he used to eat more happily like blueberries/grapes/kiwi but now won't even pick them up & veggies are the same. He also doesn't drink milk anymore since the switch from formula, he won't touch it.

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Help a stressed mumma please 😔