My boyfriend and I are on vacation and I was on my cycle and got blood on my bikini while we’re at the pool with our daughter. I accidentally sat on one of our daughters new stuffed animal and got a bit of blood on it. So I wrapped the stuffed animal with a towel and also quickly wrapped a towel around myself. As we’re walking away going to get our kid to go to our room, I realize my towel is falling off and ask him to plz grab the stuffed animal from me (which is wrapped in a towel) so I can keep my towel from falling off. He moves his hand away and says ew, then he goes I’m not just gonna touch that like that. So I go why are you acting like a damn sissy like you haven’t seen my blood before (he’s watched me give birth). So he gets so upset by my comment and starts telling me how I’m so disrespectful. I keep walking and tell him it’s not the time since our kid was coming up to us. Then, we get to the room and instead of letting me wash off first, he hops in the shower before I could even think about it. So eventually we talked and he apologized but I just don’t like that behavior and did not expect him to act like this in that moment. We’ve been together for yearss and I know he’s not a squeamish person when it comes to blood. So when I asked he basically said he felt it was gross that I expected him to just grab the stuffie without making sure it’s properly wrapped first when it was. But am
I crazy for feeling like it shouldn’t be that big of a deal for him to grab it with or without it being wrapped in a towel ? It’s my blood not a strangers. But anyway idk what’s up with men sometimes. He was so upset the rest of the day he told our daughter he didn’t wanna give her a hug or a kiss when she asked. Like yall he’s a good man when it comes to many things but he does stuff like this and I’m like wtf am I doing with him? We’re supposed to get married soon and I’m questioning all of that based on some of these things I’ve been noticing lately.
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That’s an incredibly strange reaction from him to you! And the continued behaviour of getting in the shower first and acting that way for the rest of the day
Also, I’d really want him to model to our children that periods are completely normal and not something to be embarrassed about or find gross
Hopefully the fact that he apologised, he’s reflected on how ridiculous he was being!
I guess it really depends how often he is making you feel like this and other scenarios that come up. Hopefully this particular scenario he realises was so silly and unsupportive on his part!

No he shouldn't be acting like that at all. Massive overreaction. If it was from a nosebleed would his reaction have been the same?? If not then its completely unjustified. I dont get why men are so squeamish over some period blood. Especially after watching you give birth. Think you need to say to him he needs to be a bit more considerate and take your feelings into account a bit more sorry this happened to you

I wouldn't be marrying him