Lack of interest in partner normal?

Resentment and disinterest towards my partner. I only received one month maternity leave and I had to go back to work immediately after that luckily, my job is flexible and allow me to work from home for an extra month with a valid doctors note since I had a C-section but now it’s been two months and I’m back working and I’m miserable but I don’t show it at work and I have sour taste towards my partner for reasons that I don’t even understand. I feel that he could just be very lazy sometimes and I do the bulk of the work taking care of baby, cleaning the house, picking up after him, working for 40-50 hours a week then coming home exhausted. He was like this before I don’t know why it bothers me so much now. He’s a good guy and respects me and I think he makes a good dad. What is wrong with me? Is it the hormones and me being away from my baby or what?

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Hitting and hurting

Posting incognito because I’m embarrassed

I’m really struggling at the moment and I feel like I can’t do this.

My son 18 months is hurting me non stop. All he does is hit me kick me pull my hair or hit me with objects. I’m unwell at the moment so I don’t have the energy to do all our normal activities. My son has all his toys in reach but he just uses them all to hurt me or he will just jump all over me and hit me.

I’ve tried all the gentle parenting ‘gentle hands’ ‘I won’t let you hurt mummy’ I’ve showed him gentle hands. But nothing is working

My partner also does things like throw teddies at me infront of my son. Hit me In a joking way or trip me up ect. I keep asking him to stop but he doesn’t

What do I do ☹️

What would you do: correct husband for child’s comfort or let it go? AITA?

If you were at your wits end (24/7 SAHM doing the vast majority of all things house and child related) and asked your husband to change son’s pjs because he got them all wet with water he poured on himself and he grabbed pjs that were very temperature and situationally not ideal. Like our son had a temperature yesterday and is still getting over a cold, it’s warm where we are, we are co sleeping due to his upset nature from his cold, and my husband grabbed full zip up Christmas tree FLEECE pjs.

Now I’m already irritated by my son’s misbehaving he finally is getting his energy back post cold but I haven’t yet and I am struggling (husband is not sick) so I say to him hey I think he will be too hot in those can you grab something else and he just puts the pjs down and leaves our son in just a diaper. Leaves the room… I know he’s thinking “fine then do it yourself”

I specifically try not to nitpick or micromanage when he does try and do stuff so not to deter him and make him feel like he can’t do anything right .. BUT I also don’t want to put his ego and feelings above my son’s comfort and well being. Am I crazy for that? AITA?

Please help me understand..

I’ve been married for 8 years and feel lonely and unloved. My husband is still in love with his ex that died in a tragic way. He had seen it happen and has been really messed up mentally. He tells me how he wishes I would be more like her. How he misses her so much. Why can’t I try to look more like her, to trick his brain to think she is still here. It’s like I’m not the one for him and she way. Like I will never live up to the expectation of her. I want to feel like I’m enough but he says I haven’t made him feel like she did. That I’ve been mean to him and I’ve hurt him. He says that he wants another girl around to fill the void, sexually and not sexually. Wants to have a threesome (even suggested a girlfriend at one point) no matter how many times I’ve made it so known I’m uncomfortable with it and don’t want to do that. But I’m told I’m given everything I want and I should be able to give him this one thing. everyone tells me I need to leave. That if he is going to act like that then he’s not for me. That he has to much healing and trauma to get through before he continues in a marriage. But I am in love with him. I’ve been in love with him since I was 7 years old.. I married him. I had children with him. He is it for me. I just feel so lost. I don’t know grief. I’ve never lost someone I loved. I don’t know how to help him get past this or at the very least, love me like her or maybe if I’m lucky more than her.

I don't know what to do

Here lately my s/o has been accusing me constantly of cheating. Just because we have had s** in 6 months(because I had a hysterectomy). So any little things he Nick picks over. He's constantly been going thru my phone. I can't leave him rn due to several underlying problems. But I don't how much more I can't put up with everything.

Is it just me?

I’m 34 weeks and nothing is ready. My hospital bag isn’t packed, the crib isn’t set up, all of baby’s stuff is in a corner in our room waiting to be sorted and washed because I have no space to put it. My husband has started jobs like painting the bathroom and not finished. I’ve asked him to build something and put up shelves which isn’t getting done and although he works full time I feel it’s holding me back from being able to organise things. I am starting to get annoyed with it all now. I feel like there’s no help and the flat is just getting on top of me now with all the clutter :-(

Marriage life…..

So….. my husband just started verbally abusing me with soooo many swear words. He even called my mum wanting to drop me and the baby back to their home.

This is why..
I’ve been sick and tired of him leaving his food packets behind or fast food packs.

So this morning I put his rubbish in his car.

We got into a big fight when he got home and he said he’s done with the marriage….. and for me to live with my parents….
Soo any advice or suggestions or comments for me to read while nursing my 11 wwwk old would be appreciated