Is it possible to teach a 10-month-old to share?

When my son turns a year old, he can start at the daycare that works for my schedule (and the daycare schedule runs like a school year, so he starts in August)

I’m trying to teach him some of the skills he’s going to need, such as falling safely, a little bit of sign language, taking naps on a schedule, and stuff like that. One of the skills I’m trying to teach him is sharing toys, and being okay with other people eating different food in front of him without giving it to him.

He seems to be getting used to the food thing, but the sharing toys part has been rough. He doesn’t have siblings (and neither did I growing up) so I don’t really know the dynamics of teaching him this. I’ll pick up a toy, doesn’t matter what it is, give him something else to play with, and pretend that Im really interested in “my” toy. I’m trying to get him comfortable with minding his own business about toys. But he hits and bites and screams and demands what I’m playing with, even if it’s a lot less interesting than what he’s playing with it. He wants to take it just because I’m interested in it. I have tried holding his hands so he doesn’t hit, and sitting still with the toy as though it’s uninteresting. But he still has the same response. I’m not sure if there’s something I’m missing when I’m teaching him.

I don’t want him to get in trouble for treating other children like this at play time. I don’t even know how daycare kids get in trouble. Like, I can’t imagine sending a 1-year-old to the principals office and writing them up for a suspension or anything like that. Lol
But I don’t want him to get kicked out. And tbh, I would be lying if I said I’m not at least a little bit worried that they’re going to think I’m not socializing him right and I’m raising him to be spoiled and mean.

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No! It’s not age appropriate for them to share so don’t worry about it! I’ve worked in preschool for 10 years, that’s not even on their radar until like 2

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Babies can’t be mean or spoiled! They’re so little still. The only thing I would be mindful of is biting. When he bites firmly say no and disengage. Definitely don’t give him the toy he wants when he does that. You want to show him that biting doesn’t get him what he wants. The rest is pretty typical of this age

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My girl will be 11 months on Monday and she just started handing me toys she when I ask her for it. She’ll give it to me maybe 25% of the time I ask, but will want it back within 10 seconds so I’m just assuming she’ll get better at it with time. She’ll be starting daycare in a few weeks and I’m not too worried. She doesn’t have any siblings and has never played with another baby since we don’t know anyone with kids right now so I get the concerns you have. She also will want everything that I’m touching so you’re not alone 😊

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