Need help with sleep!

I just gave birth on 7th June to my newborn. I haven’t had much sleep since. And when I say much, I mean 0. Every time I try to nap while he’s napping, I end up worrying something will happen to him so never really fall asleep. I get scared every time he cries. Any tips on how to at least get some little sleeping. This sleep deprivation is killing my mental health.

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Do you have a partner? Or family member to watch him whilst you have a nap? Or on the evening whilst my partner was on paternity leave, I used to go up to bed quite early whilst he stayed downstairs with the baby till around 12 then bring her up so I could atleast get a few hours then. it does get better I promise, once you get into a routine and know your baby better you’ll start to relax abit more ☺️

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I remember feeling exactly like this. First of all, mention it to your midwife or GP! I got diagnosed with postnatal depression, but it’s anxiety and falls under the same umbrella. It’s super difficult but I promise it gets better! Your hormones have crashed heavily also 🤍
Try shift your mindset that crying is good, crying means alert and communicating. That’s what my GP told me. If it becomes high pitched or weak, that’s when to seek advice but as a mum, you’ll know when something isn’t right and you’re not doing anything wrong to get anything checked out you’re unsure of. I was always at the doctors/hospital early days because I was scared of everything. You must sleep, set yourself an alarm if it helps slightly. A severely sleep deprived mama isn’t good for anyone. Feel free to message me if you want to chat about it from someone who definitely knows how you’re feeling 🤍

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