Wake windows

Hi, my baby is 12 days old and is starting to stay awake longer and longer and I have no idea what to do with him, we've done tummy time but he's too young to do it too long. He just stars at me and me makes funny noises and I havnt got a clue what to do with him. He can't even see very far yet 😅 please can I ask what you guys did?

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Am I crazy?

We sent a list of boundaries & expectations (rules lmao) to my in-laws before the baby comes. The last one was if the baby is fussy or needs to be changed or fed, then hand them to me, De Mama. My MIL said it was “odd” that we would ask for the baby to come to me and not her son, and then she asked why me. My husband told her because I’ll be around the baby the most and it makes the most sense. I said because I’ve held that baby for 10 months and I want them. I know it’s none of her business WHY we implement rules for our home and I know I shouldn’t care because it’s MY home and MY baby but help an anxious, 32-days-left girly out. Am I nuts? Is this an unreasonable rule?

Sleeping with comforter

My baby girl is 6 months and likes to hold a muslin to sleep. If she’s got it she can resettle herself at night but can’t without it. I let her have it while I can watch her on the monitor until I go to bed but then take it. I know guidelines are clear cot until 1 year and I wouldn’t feel safe knowing she had it anyway. Any ideas or suggestions I can try so she doesn’t keep waking just for that comfort which she can’t have?

5am day starts

My 7 week old seems to wake for the day from 5am unless i put him in the sling he will then go sleep.

Will this eventually change and settle into a normal time if maybe 6/7am?

I have a 2yr old as well so praying this will change because my days are becoming sooo long. My toddler happily sleeps till 7/8am usually 😴

Sleeping/ Nighttime routine

What time is everyone putting baby down to sleep for the night? And what time is their first wake up? Trying to establish a routine for my baby who likes to do things her way 😅

Breastfeeding struggle…

So I am 2 weeks and 2 days postpartum.
For the first few days i managed to breastfeed directly however ended up with sore, lipstick shaped and bruised nipples. I also have flat nipples, so thats a barrier. Hence I was advised to give them some rest and only pump and feed via bottle.

I did that, and did try to get my baby to latch again however I get sore often again. So its been a week now that he has only been having pumped milk via bottle.
Now when i try to get him to latch, he gets frustrated and refuses.

I know he is still having breastmilk and he is gaining weight really well. Birth weight was 2.8kgs and now he is 3.4kgs.
But the sense of guilt of not being able to breastfeed directly really kills. I cannot provide him with the comfort of sucking or milk right away when hungry (as he has to wait for us to heat up the milk)
I haven’t had a lactation assessment yet nor have the team looked into tongue tie.
My husband is very supportive and keeps reminding me that this is not the end of my breastfeeding journey. We sometimes think that maybe his mouth is too small for proper latch as I have quite heavy breasts. So maybe when he’s a little bigger?
I don’t know… i feel very defeated with it and sometimes just wonder if I continue with exclusive pumping and feed via bottle… is that still okay?
:(

How to switch from exclusively pumping to breastfeeding?

Has anyone successfully transitioned from exclusively pumping back to breastfeeding? My daughter was exclusively breastfeeding for the first 6 weeks with a nipple shield but then had her tongue tie released and her weight started going down, I started giving her the bottle to make sure she’d fed well and since then she stopped latching on my breast and I’m exclusively pumping now. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.