Should I return to work? I need advice

I'm due to go back to work in November possible January if I use all my annual leave. I'm sad to leave my baby however o also want to go back to work - work is stressful so may have to find another job with more pay.

I am in a dilemma as we live with our in laws, we have our own space in the annex. However, as time goes I'm getting really mentally drained staying here and find myself always leaving the house so I don't see them. They are lovely people don't get me wrong but it's the constant on edge of someone is going to walk in when I'm feeding or not in the mood to talk to anyone or constantly asked where are we going.

So I had a conversation with my husband explaining this and he said that if we move out it will be far away from
Family so we can afford it. If we don't and live here for another 2 years we can buy a house nearby .. I have a credit card to pay off currently on SMP which will stop in September, so I did tell him that he will have to help me out - his point is that he will have to give me money but also look to move out and pay the bills.

In this case I said then i will just go back to work FT and baby will go nursery. He said if that's the case then I'll pay half the cost. He wants me to look after him so he doesn't go nursery but this will mean I will need to have some money from him every month (which I don't want to keep asking) to pay my 'debts' and bills.

He says I'm not appreciative that we don't have to pay bills now etc. but for me if I continue to live here I'm going to be really resentful.

Do I just go back to work full time put baby in nursery or do I not and have an agreement that he gives me money every month and somehow move out?

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Friends?

Hi all. Im an almost 37 year old mama. I have 3 human babies 16 year old daughter (chose to live with grandparents), almost 13 year old son (end of month) and a 1 1/2 year old daughter. Oh and let's not forget two 1 1/2 year old huskies and an almost 3 year old husky.

My life sounds chaotic. And it pretty much is. It's why I'm looking for mom friends that has an understanding to my chaos. I get so overwhelmed, sometimes I just need a friend to talk to.

I have one local bestie who has her own problems and one long distance bestie.

Im wanting to find a closer bestie to me in Colorado Springs. But will take more long distance besties as well!

If you're down to talk and chit chat about whatever we can come up with, shoot me a message.

A picture of my and my youngest for recognition.

Feeling alone

My husband did a voluntary deportation a month before I gave birth and will be gone for 3 yrs we talk everyday and all night when I’m having trouble to put little one down. But I feel alone because I’m doing it all by myself I never pictured me having all these first time experiencing by myself and always wanted my husband but then I feel guilty because I feel this way and he would kill for these moments with our son and I’m complaining about doing it alone and that he won’t go to sleep just the small things that I get overwhelmed sometimes. I feel like a bad mom because of it sometimes

looking for mama friends!!

hi! I'm Lauren, I'm 22 and I'm a first time mom to a 7 month old baby girl! I feel like sometimes it can be so hard to find friends as a new mama!! feel free to message me!

Feeling all sorts of ways- racial tensions

Anyone else feeling scared of the increasing intensity and frequency of race riots in the UK?

Also, before shit hits the fan like it does on other platforms (i can't believe) i have to say i think all perpetrators of violence are scum, whatever they may look like 👍

Maternity leave

When is normal time to go off on maternity leave?
I was trying to work as long as possible before baby comes but I’m currently 31 weeks and struggling !!

If you’re a florist PLS read

I offered to do my SIL’s wedding florals, so I went into it knowing I wasn’t getting paid, and I’ve accepted that. For context, about three weeks before the wedding I asked my MIL if she needed help with anything. I mentioned that I had already told my SIL I’d help with decor and florals. My MIL said she had no floral plans at all and asked me to take charge of ordering and making everything. I agreed and had a blood relative help me. Between the planning, calculating flower quantities, staying within MIL’s $500 budget, ordering supplies, and actually making everything, it ended up being a lot work (with no help from bridal party like they said they would) The floral supplies were $600 and we made: bridal bouquet, 4 bridesmaid bouquets, 13 boutonnieres, 8 corsages, and 1 toss bouquet. My relative and I each spent about 20 hours on it (40 hours total) + we took over her house with flowers for few days. A few days after the wedding, my MIL gave me $150 for the flowers. My relative didn’t receive anything. We genuinely weren’t expecting payment at all, but 40 hours of work, splitting $150 between us felt a little wild 🥴. Still, we both understood going into it that this was a favor and not something we were doing to make money. Then a few days later, my MIL texted me asking if I would pick up the bouquet, figure out how to preserve it, and handle that process too. She said she had everything ready for me and sent me a bunch of how-to videos. When I declined, she became cold toward me. (I also took a week off work for wedding & wedding prep so I am SALTY). My question is: was I completely used? It feels like after I did all of this, they now assume I’ll say yes to anything. I don’t have the best relationship with my in-laws to begin with. My MIL praised me so much it felt fake, while my SIL never said thank you, told me she liked the flowers, or acknowledged the work that went into them. Now another SIL is getting married in less than three months, and it sounds like they may be expecting me to do the flowers again. Would I be the AH if I charged this time? One SIL got them essentially for free, but I’m struggling with the idea of putting in that kind of time, effort, and money again. I do have a family, job & LIFE.
Would I be used again? Have I given them the idea that I’ve forgiven all the hurt they’ve caused because I did 20+ hours of free labor???
We also in UT 🇺🇸 so ofc getting married at 18 is normal 🥴
Thanks for reading the family gossip of the week 🫶 comments are appreciated 🥂