Make it make sense

How am I the one with a baby who keep in mind is 6 months old but yet my friend who was like literally my soulmate who doesn’t have kids just a boyfriend now who btw swears things like soda are made from babies only can reach out like once every two weeks if I’m even lucky bc she’s so busy? We have each other on Life360 and idk if she thinks I’m an idiot but I can see when she’s home and I know she can’t be that busy she can’t reply to a text like come on we went from hanging out every single day to this crap this is why I’m so over getting close to people like I’m so tired of finally thinking I have a friend for life then out of no where stupid crap like this happens

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Unfortunately I think some people, no matter how close you are can feel awkward when suddenly a baby appears in the friendship. I have had a friend who has gone all no show on me recently which has been a shame.

Don’t worry I tried planning an activity with my group of friends and they planned it without telling me and inviting me you will find new friends that will make you forget about your old one it’s frustrating but it obviously wasn’t meant to be

I think at first I felt this way a bit with my friends as well. after some reflection I realized i’m the one who decided to have a baby and switch up on her not necessarily the other way around. I decided to have a baby and completely change my life and day to day and freedom to do whatever whenever. I really couldn’t expect my childless friends to always accommodate my schedule and needs or to stay in w me all the time, etc. I think a lot of times things like this happen we fail to realize the other person also has a full life. idk if it’s a new BF but often when we enter new relationships we really focus on that it doesn’t mean we still don’t love our friends. same with becoming a mom, everything becomes about the baby and we become new women through motherhood. and it’s all okay and normal. could people make more of an effort especially towards PP mothers, of course, but maybe you just need to have a sit down chat w your girl and express your feelings, just keep hers in mind too

if you are wanting girlie chats & mums to speak to we have a group chat if you want the link!xx

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