For some background information we live in Utah and here it’s very common to tell boys you can’t like pink that’s a girl thing, etc. if you believe oppositely it’s unusual and you’ll get looked at weird also it’s a very Republican state. Especially where we live more on the countryside of Utah.
I’m democratic and my husband is in the middle, but he believes that we shouldn’t let our son watch “girl shows” even though we both have no problem if he decides in the future he finds out he’s gay/trans etc.
I hate this, but it’s the only thing he’s really cared about how would you convince someone in a nice way that teaching your sons it’s bad to be feminine is harmful? Does anyone have any suggestions?
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Start by challenging his opinion by asking him questions. I’d ask him to explain his thought process behind what makes a show a “girl show” and what he thinks is going to happen exactly if your son watches them. Then ask why he’d be so afraid of that happening.

Im curious what a girl show is.
Id say i dont see whats wrong with girl shows. It will help teach our son how to be a good father in the future as I assume girl shows are more aimed towards "pink" jobs and all that sort of traditional stuff. But I am unsure what a girl show is to be honest

What is a girl show? Like Barbie shows or princess shows? My son enjoyed watching Sophia the first on Disney when he was a baby, and he is far from “girly”. He is all boy and I don’t think tv shows are gender specific.

I don’t think it’s that deep. If the tv is on kids will watch it. My son has watch Sofia the Princess and peppa pig. I took him to see frozen and Moana when it was out. Growing up I watch thunder cats, heman and xmen as I had a brother.

restricting your child’s interests for public satisfaction will only breed resentment for you guys. the world is harsh and will cast judgement either way, it’s your job as his parents to be his safe space from the harsh world, to let your home be the one place he can be HIMSELF. let him watch the shows tell your husband to stop being a dick

I remember being at the store and my son wanted a bluey stuffed animal and some lady told him it’s for girls I instantly grabbed both bluey and bingo and told him he can have them the lady gave me a dirty look and I told her just because the characters are girls doesn’t make it a girl show and she told me where she’s from they don’t let their boys watch stuff like that which I think is sad i get not wanting them to be into Barbie and girly stuff but nowadays the shows and movies they make is for both boys and girls it’s even for the parents my daughter will sit down and watch Pokémon and sonic and stuff with her brothers and they’ll sit down and watch stuff like enchanto and Moana and other stuff with her I think it’s great

the “girly” shows he’s probably referring to like My Little Pony, Doc McStuffins, Gabby’s Dollhouse, Ms. Rachel, Barbie, etc. often teach values such as compassion, empathy, friendship, teamwork, problem solving, communication, emotional regulation. are those skills specifically for girls? are we not teaching boys those?
balancing your child’s “media diet” helps expose them to healthier, well-rounded role models. you’re literally suppressing your child’s curiosity and emotional regulation by telling them their interests are “wrong”.
if you had a girl, would he not teach her how to change her own tire? would he tell her playing sports makes her “masculine” ? its so hypocritical and misogynistic. 🙄