Am I being crazy?

Ok so I’m having my son in early sept and he is not the first grand baby on either side but the first grandson on my side . I don’t get along with my mom for a ton of reasons but she doesn’t respect boundaries at all. She all of a sudden after not wanting to meet the baby at all once he’s born has changed her mind and I quite frankly just don’t care and don’t want her around. I told her people will have access to him when I decide and she did not like that. Everything in me wants to just move far away from everyone once he’s born and just enjoy my son with my hubby but that’s not possible. I just want my kid to myself and everyone has this sense of entitlement over him already it’s driving me nuts . Am I being crazy or is it normal to feel this way ? I just don’t wanna share my baby with anyone now

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You don't have to if she doesn't respect boundaries let her know in a respectful way that until you understand how to respect me I don't want you around me and I don't trust you with my kid
Start going no contact so that by the time the baby is here you have some form of detachment

You're not crazy at all to feel this way. It's important to set boundaries and even more important to cut out people who don't respect them, regardless of who they are. I was in a similar situation when my second was born...but we did pack up and move almost 3,000 miles away from my family. We had nothing and no idea where we were going but it worked out fine in the end. We even managed to buy a house. It really helped. Maybe try honestly discussing it with your husband? I thought mine would tell me no, but he was actually really game to the idea. I hope this helps.

You don't have to completely cut her out of your life but you can limit access and if no one has the key to your house let people know if idk you are coming before you come I'm not Opening the door

The situation is complicated and right now y'all definitely need support so I understand him being hesitant definitely bring it up again once he gets back on track

That's a bummer. I'm sorry he isn't willing to relocate.

That's fair I guess. I mean, mine did hahah but like I get that his dedication is rare.

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Am I the a**hole?

So our baby is 8 months old, not a great sleeper but I'm not used to waking up every hour/2 hours ever night 😭😂
Basically partner works Monday -Friday 9-3:30 which I understand is still draining, my partner doesn't have to wake up for anything at night as I breastfeed so it's just me that baby will settle for at the moment (I sleep in the same room as baby )
As I don't get much time to myself day or night as baby goes to bed around 6:30pm and I stay with her for the night, sometimes on the weekend I just want an hour or 2 just to relax but my partner says "well I haven't had any time to myself"
But they have from 6:30 until they go to sleep every night plus uninterrupted sleep?!
Am I the a hole for wanting a little time to myself?

Stranger touched my newborns hand

I was out for a coffee today and an old lady touched my 4 week old baby's hand. I know she was well intentioned & I belive she had a learning disability, but I've been completely freaking out since getting home.

I used wet wipes on his hands when I was at the cafe and put his scratch mittens on so that he couldnt put his hands in his mouth. When we got home I put some hand sanitizer on my hands and the rubbed the excess onto his hands, but before wiping it off with another wet wipe.

I'm so scared that he's going to get sick and I cannot stop myself from spiralling. I know its irrational and that this type of thing happens to lots of babies, but I feel sick with worry right now & can't stop crying. Has anyone else had a similar experience and did things turn out okay?

Nursery vs Nappies

I need advice…

On Monday 1st June I dropped my child off at nursery for her first day, with a full pack of 72 size 5 pampers nappies and 3 packs of wipes. On Thursday 11th June they have asked for more nappies; so working full time and navigating life as a working mum I ran to the shops and Friday morning I’ve dropped off a full pack of pampers size 5+. I’m now concerned that my child’s nappies are being used on other kids as she came home today in the size 5+ and it clicked in my brain that I previously provided them with size 5 pampers and surely they haven’t used all of them yet!

For reference, she attends nursery 4 times a week (2 full days and 2 half days). On her handover sheets, it seems she’s only being changed maximum 5 times on full days and 3 times on half days. Surely they haven’t used that many on my child?

Has anyone come across this before and how did you address it?

P.S - I will no longer be providing full packs, however I’m new to this and thought it would make mine and nursery’s life easier to ensure she always had nappies. But I cannot afford to be replacing them like this 😭

Make it make sense

How am I the one with a baby who keep in mind is 6 months old but yet my friend who was like literally my soulmate who doesn’t have kids just a boyfriend now who btw swears things like soda are made from babies only can reach out like once every two weeks if I’m even lucky bc she’s so busy? We have each other on Life360 and idk if she thinks I’m an idiot but I can see when she’s home and I know she can’t be that busy she can’t reply to a text like come on we went from hanging out every single day to this crap this is why I’m so over getting close to people like I’m so tired of finally thinking I have a friend for life then out of no where stupid crap like this happens

Wow not surprise

So just cuz your mad at me you want get mad when i decide leave early in morning cuz I heard saying should get out house before got hot so I get up at 6am and get kids head out u wanna feel some type away because you mad at me but in other time you want be fine other thing cuz you mad u wanna sit there in bed all morning cuz we not there but in other time you be up and like you say I change up when we get into it but what you call that you changing once’s again it’s always my fault when stuff happened to you of your mad I have wait for you get over but let me be mad I get called names or I get told I’m changing up make that make sense

UBER

HI, Anyone successfully taken an uber with baby carseat and frame put in the boot? I don't drive and hubby can't always take me to things. My carseat can go into a car without the base. Bit I've not tried it yet. I just wondered if it was relatively easy. As there's no option to say you want to travel with a baby. My LO can get upset if it's not matched with his nap, so obviously I'd want a driver whose comfortable if he's upset.