make it make sense
(this is dumb so sorry to waste everyone’s time)

soo i just need a second opinion
my boyfriend had been pissing me off pretty much all afternoon . i alr had a stressful day but when he got off work & came to pick me & our daughter up to go swimming he was saying things that kept rubbing me wrong . i told him that his comments were rude & yet he acted like he didn’t know what i was talking about . I was genuinely starting to think i was tweaking but no….he was gaslighting me.

fast forward , he drops our daughter & myself back home and him & i are talking on tik tok( which we often do at the end of the day)…sending videos back & forth , joking & laughing everything’s cool… right ? until he says something else that’s mean n hurtful (thinking he’s a comedian) . i’m thinking this is the perfect time for me to get his ass . so i reported his comment and got his page suspended ,right ? ha jokes on u! mind you it’s funny ash to me to the point where im actually gasping for air . i haven’t laughed this hard in days . im slapping my knee and everything .

he gets mad when he realizes that he can’t message me anymore or message his friends . he starts panicking thinking he won’t be able to make any more money off of his account . i said “boo hoo” stop being rude to me your on time out but your account should be back normal in like a day or so. obviously tik tok didn’t think your comment was appropriate either . you know what his response to that is …. “your just like your cousin (who’s name i won’t say) …….worthless “

now… please tell me i don’t have every right to be mad asf , bc why would u say that ba me but also why would u randomly bring my cousin into this. ik this whole thing sounds stupid but it’s the principle for me like why in the fk would u call the mother of your child worthless over a harmless prank ? especially when you’ve been a dick to me all day??
i temporarily blocked him for the evening . what should i do ladies . i’m open to everything

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Decide on your boundaries and inform him. For instance - You may not call me worthless. Before moving on, you need to apologize. If it happens again you will be blocked for x days and will need to apologize again. If you can't stop using demeaning language toward me, I will not want to continue being in a relationship with you.

If he can't let up and you break up, you can move your communication onto a parenting app. Everything is documented and courts do not appreciate sarcasm.

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