I’m so sad

I’m sad because I lost my friend today . It’s been hard to have friends and I’m Muslim and I never had a Muslim friend before I said I was gonna help her with something she needed my help with . I got in a fight with my children’s father he didn’t want me to do it , now I lost my friend and she was someone I enjoyed being friends with we had slid in common and she has achieved more than me . I listened to him because I let fear take over . Idk why I even listen I found out a few months Ago he likes transgender woman and is still doing he tells me I can’t achieve . I can’t even sleep because I know my relationship is bad . I decided to end my relationship because of this I just can’t take it anymore being used like a nag whatever the consequences are so be it because with my friend not being my friend anymore it opened my eyes that this is not how life should be I don’t know what’s next for me but I can’t stop crying so much . I in general struggle with anxiety. But I listen to a man who does not love me not at all . I can’t stop crying is there anyone there ? I feel so heartbroken. I’m weak I let a man tell me what to do what have I turned into . Now I’m all alone . Will the pain get better ? Feels like a breakup fr I always would ask to hangout but I never had the courage to tell her that he wouldn’t drive me and I’m to afraid to get in a uber with my kids . I’m in therapy but I have to just make the choice and I choose to let this bad vibe go

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Am I being crazy?

Ok so I’m having my son in early sept and he is not the first grand baby on either side but the first grandson on my side . I don’t get along with my mom for a ton of reasons but she doesn’t respect boundaries at all. She all of a sudden after not wanting to meet the baby at all once he’s born has changed her mind and I quite frankly just don’t care and don’t want her around. I told her people will have access to him when I decide and she did not like that. Everything in me wants to just move far away from everyone once he’s born and just enjoy my son with my hubby but that’s not possible. I just want my kid to myself and everyone has this sense of entitlement over him already it’s driving me nuts . Am I being crazy or is it normal to feel this way ? I just don’t wanna share my baby with anyone now

Quiet sleeper

My husband has just put our baby down in our next to me crib aboyt an hour ago and its my shift now with the baby. I know I should be sleeping but baby is just sleeping so quietly I keep checking on him! Every other night he grunts and makes all sorts of noises but tonight hes just sleeping so quietly

Im so terrified of sids, but hes alone, on his back in his snuzpod and in a swaddle. Ive checked and hes not too warm to touch on his chest but Im so wide awake I cant take advantage of the quiet! Hes just turned 4 weeks old yesterday

Is this normal? Everything ive seen and read is that newborns should sound like a whole farm of animals while sleeping

Genuinely confused🥴

My relationship with my MIL is really confusing. I got pregnant pretty quickly into my dating my husband, and she was excited through my pregnancy, but kept making comments to my husband about being in the delivery room.

When I gave birth, she drove 3 hours and tried to get in, but my mom and husband didn't let her in while I was in labour. Literally 8 hours after, she showed up in the hospital room to meet the baby. My baby was struggling with latching at that point, and she offered to "help" and grabbed my boob before I could say anything. I'd also ended up having an episiotomy and forceps delivery, so there was still literal blood and poop leaking out of me. She spent the rest of that visit filming a video holding and talking to my daughter.

I moved on cos I had a baby to focus on. My husband and I moved in with my parents temporarily as we'd just moved cities, but the whole time we lived there she would tell my husband that he's not a "man" because he's not providing (he is now and suddenly she's so proud🥴). She'd also make shady comments to me, and try to tell me about what I should and shouldn't do for my baby and this included things I strongly disagree with. She would compare her access to my baby, even though we lived with my parents and she lived hours away. My husband spoke to her even though he didn't understand the issue, and she stopped making comments to me.

The biggest issue for me is that she has always smoked during visits with my baby, and even once around my baby. I have made my husband tell her to stop three times, and each time, she'll stop for the next visit and then carry on smoking from the following visit. Even worse, my husband quit smoking since we had a baby, but on each visit, she still offers him a pack of cigarettes.

She has also been asking about when my daughter can sleep at her's since she was born, she's 12 months old now and I've never let her sleep over, but it's caused a lot of tension between me and my husband. I just don't think that she would respect other boundaries I might set.

Besides that, she's started being really nice, so I worry that im just overreacting or something. What do you think?

If you have any advice for me, I'd really appreciate it.

Sleeping through the night

My LO is 10 weeks old and has just started randomly sleeping through the night and changed her habits during the day - seems to be a lot fussier etc.

Has anyone else experienced this? How long does everyone else’s LO’s sleep for during the night? What’s the max time they’ve gone and do you feel like it’s impacted how they are during the day?

Do you also wake them up during the night if it’s been a long period of time?

Sorry so many q’s hah xx

Rubbing face

Does anyone else’s baby rub their face on you a ridiculous amount when going to sleep? I’ve read it’s a self soothing thing but with the amount my baby girl does it, I don’t get how! She rubs and rubs her face on my shoulder and chest until both our skin is sore, and the headbuts to my jaw are so frustrating. I know she must be doing it for a reason but it’s so hard to deal with every sleep time - just wondering if anyone else has the same issue?

Seriously need help. Daughter is 2.5 and im ashamed to say but she wakes up 2 times in the night for milk!!!!

I have tried giving water, I say no or have even reduced to wean her and she cannot switch off!!! She will stay tossing and turning in turn ruining my sleep. Ive had a shit sleep since ive ever had my first and now this one does this every night im at the end of my tether now. In the day shes active, eats ok, plays and doesnt have a nap because I want her to sleep in the night. Ive even tried giving nap in the day to see if its over tiredness but no. She will wake up 2 times or 1 sometimes if Im lucky and wants milk. How the hell do I get out of this loop! Im sooo exhausted and I dont even get to be with my hubby either cos im always here. Its 4.22am right now i tended to her at 2.30 she screamed place down for milk so I am so exhausted I give in. N she demands to be in my lap. Shes trying to switch off right now as I type this. Deep down im so pissed off. I do the 24 7 care for her. Sometimes they go to mums for 2 or 3 hours which gives me a chance to speed up on my jobs. Ive been sooo exhausted cleaning deep deckuttering the house and lots of other jobs my brain is maxed out. Hubby does not help in these areas cos hes always at work non stop and to be honest hes shit at it even if he did help. Or would say why am I doing x y z and then later realise why! I am tired of explaining myself. Sorry rant xx