Opinion
So, Ive brought up several times to my fiance that Iāve been in a relationship in my past that was unfaithful and was cheated on/had a lusting bf. Thereās been several deep convos weāve had about our past and just some things we fear. My biggest one is cheating and has been brought to his attention several times. He always reassures me, and obviously I trust him so much. Well, a few times Iāve talked about it Iāve noticed he kind of dissociates and I think itās odd but donāt think much about it. He told me once that when him and his ex wife were divorcing and in the filing stage to it being official, he did mess around with someone during that. Anyways, Iāve asked multiple times if thatās been the only time or anything and heās always said yes. Well, last night he had a drink and seemed to have the liquid courage maybe but he told me he had something to tell me and hasnāt been fully honest with me and while his wife was out doing stuff with others I guess, and they were going through a bad time, he got super drunk at a wedding and ended up sleeping with someone that night. While still married. He said she was doing the same thing and it didnāt justify his behavior and shouldnāt have done that and told me heās been wanting to tell me this for MONTHS but just has been afraid to and couldnāt figure out the right timing but wanted to tell me before we got married. Heās worried I see him different, which I donāt. Iām so in love with him but I did express my concerns like hey, āif we ever go through a really bad time in our marriage or you accidentally get too drunk is that what youāre going to go out and doā considering Iāve been in the position of being cheated on. He pulled me closer and looked me in the eyes and said āI would never do this to you. That wasnāt me back then and I am so in love with you. That wasnāt who I was and I would never even think about that. You are the woman of my dreamsā and I DO believe him. Seriously. But at the same timeā¦. Iāve had a pit in my stomach since last night.
Please tell me if you were in my shoes what youād think or feel? Would you just say no biggie and move on, or have different feelings? I want other womanās opinions on this