SAHM issues

So im a stay at home mom my baby is 14 months old and I have an almost 4 yr old step baby and we have her half the time. I live with my boyfriend/ baby daddy and my kids.
I do all the housework and everything that has to do with the kids. My man works long hours and whatnot, but he refuses to help with anything around the house. I cook and clean and do laundry everyday and I’m tired I don’t ever get a break or time to myself because I don’t have my own money and my car is broken I also don’t have friends or family close by that could help me so it’s just me and my little family I created. The thing is all he does is bitch the house is never clean enough or the kids are to much or I say something and he catches an attitude so fast and gets mad.
I don’t know what to do I tried everything and still it’s never enough and he refuses to help around the house because he works and insists I’m not doing a well enough job. I feel so under appreciated and taken for granted.
Does anyone have any advice or is going through something similar I really need someone to talk to.

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I’m sorry you are going through this, my husband works 1 week on 1 week off so I solo parent for a whole week, but he helps so much when he is home. You shouldn’t have to do it all just because he works.

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