Left my husband alone with baby out of frustration.
My husband was away in Europe for two weeks (for leisure) and during that time I stayed out of state with my parents to get some help with the baby. We returned home last Sunday, and since then I've been taking care of the baby all week, which I understand because I'm currently on maternity leave while he's working.
The last two nights have been especially hard. Our 3 month old has been struggling to go back to sleep after her 1–2 a.m. feed, so I've barely slept. I've been in and out of sleep because she's constantly moving around in her bassinet.
Every Sunday, my husband goes to play soccer from around 6 - 9am Before he left this morning, I told him how exhausted I was, and he said he would watch the baby when he comes back so I could rest. He came home around 8:30 am; and I was getting the baby ready because we had a photoshoot scheduled for 11:30 am. He watched her for about an hour before telling me he plans to go to his friend's house later to watch the game.
We ended up arguing because I was under the impression that he would take care of the baby for the day so I could finally get some rest. Fast forward, when we got home from the photoshoot, I prepared the baby's bottle, asked him to feed her, and set up her portable bassinet next to him in the living room before going to the bedroom to rest.
About an hour later, he brought the sleeping baby into the room, placed her in the bassinet beside me, and walked out!
At that point, I got up, grabbed my keys, and left the house. I'm currently sitting in my car trying to get some rest, and I don't plan on going back home until later tonight.
I know he's been working, but I feel hurt, unsupported, and frustrated. I communicated that I was exhausted and needed help, and instead, it felt like my need for rest wasn't taken seriously. He’s being extremely selfish & inconsiderate and I’m fed up!
Am I in the wrong? Should I stay out or go back home 😭. I’m even considering booking a hotel for the night.
Opinion
So, Ive brought up several times to my fiance that I’ve been in a relationship in my past that was unfaithful and was cheated on/had a lusting bf. There’s been several deep convos we’ve had about our past and just some things we fear. My biggest one is cheating and has been brought to his attention several times. He always reassures me, and obviously I trust him so much. Well, a few times I’ve talked about it I’ve noticed he kind of dissociates and I think it’s odd but don’t think much about it. He told me once that when him and his ex wife were divorcing and in the filing stage to it being official, he did mess around with someone during that. Anyways, I’ve asked multiple times if that’s been the only time or anything and he’s always said yes. Well, last night he had a drink and seemed to have the liquid courage maybe but he told me he had something to tell me and hasn’t been fully honest with me and while his wife was out doing stuff with others I guess, and they were going through a bad time, he got super drunk at a wedding and ended up sleeping with someone that night. While still married. He said she was doing the same thing and it didn’t justify his behavior and shouldn’t have done that and told me he’s been wanting to tell me this for MONTHS but just has been afraid to and couldn’t figure out the right timing but wanted to tell me before we got married. He’s worried I see him different, which I don’t. I’m so in love with him but I did express my concerns like hey, “if we ever go through a really bad time in our marriage or you accidentally get too drunk is that what you’re going to go out and do” considering I’ve been in the position of being cheated on. He pulled me closer and looked me in the eyes and said “I would never do this to you. That wasn’t me back then and I am so in love with you. That wasn’t who I was and I would never even think about that. You are the woman of my dreams” and I DO believe him. Seriously. But at the same time…. I’ve had a pit in my stomach since last night.
Please tell me if you were in my shoes what you’d think or feel? Would you just say no biggie and move on, or have different feelings? I want other woman’s opinions on this
