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Baby Daddy Drama

I just need to vent

So me and my baby daddy have been split for around 5 months, I live with my mom and fully take care of my baby girl. Bd works nights and works Sunday night-Thursday night. A few months ago he would come to my mom’s house on Fridays and see baby girl, that was until he started destroying my stuff. He cut my Vera Bradley back pack ( like 5-6 different places) and also cut my dresser ( too many places to count). He stopped coming to my moms to visit because of this and he also just could not respect my boundaries, like not touching me or giving me personal space. He also does NOT get along with my mom because of comments he makes to the both of us. For the past like two months I have been going to his mom’s house which is around 45-50 minutes away. It has gotten slightly better than it did in the beginning but he still makes his smart remarks, I’ve just learned to ignore them at this point. When we were together we got a car for baby, it was a 2025 Chevy trailblazer and was perfect for what we needed. He sold the car in my name (big mistake) to get himself a little work car. I didn’t really plan on things turning out the way they do obviously but he did give me a check for my car he sold like 2 months ago. I have went without a car since I moved in with my mom, he has a truck, a little work car, and then the new car we had got. I have not had a job since baby girl was born, we were doing the whole sahm thing and both agreed that’s what was best. My mom has been letting me use her car when I need it and she does have a jeep she can drive (I can’t because it’s a stick 😅) my sister also works from home 3 days of the week so If anything happened and I were in need of transportation I usually do have that. So last weekend my family went to the beach and had the best time, bd was absolutely pissed because he ofc was not welcome to come. He didn’t see her last Saturday but he has absolutely been on my ass about seeng her this Saturday (today). Last night he asked what time I would be at his moms and I told him anywhere from 10-12 depending on when baby girl last ate and how long it took to get ready. He informed me around 8 that he had an appointment at 9 that he forgot about and he wouldn’t be at his moms until 12-12:30. I was very confused on what appointment because it’s Saturday and he would not tell me where he was. I got to his moms house around 11:45 and let him know I made it there and asked if he had a guess to when he’d be there and it turned into 1:30-2 but no later. I sat at his moms until 3 and he rolls up in a brand new lifted heavy duty ford truck. I was annoyed for many reasons but he was all smiley and proud and I could have blown a fuse. For one, Saturdays are his days and he had been on me to see her all week and then didn’t even show up until 3, secondly he didnt work yesterday so why didn’t he do it then? Lastly he has not gave me a single dime for our baby girl in the last 3 months. I get free diapers through her insurance and I have been pulling out of the money he gave me for my car but I’ve really been trying to save that so I can get transportation for myself. The thing that really got me though is baby girl hadn’t took a nap since we had got there and started getting overtired, I was ready to go myself and it was around 4 at this point so I packed the car up and got her car seat all ready to go and he said “ you’ll leave when I’m ready for you to” he has said and done way way worse things but it really just hit a nerve because we had waited around on him all day for him to do something that was for him. I’m just aggravated and over his bs at this point. thanks for reading my rant 🥴