Lonely mom, trying to find her place
Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one that struggles with this...
I've changed a lot since becoming a mom. I've become closer to God and I'm also very cautious on what my son consumes. For example just because my son wants to eat cookies and candy means he's going to eat it. He also can't watch just anything on tv. It usually has to be educational and for a small amount of time.
Whenever I go out and meet new parents, I find it so difficult to click with them because they are the complete opposite from me, especially when it comes to how they raise their kids. Part of me doesn't even care if we don't have much in common, what's more important is what they allow or don't allow their children to do. Usually if I see their children have bad behavior, I just take my son and leave.
The main reason I do this is because I put a lot of effort on raising my son and I don't say this to offend anyone.
Does anyone else struggle with this? Do you still have hope you will find other parents and children that align with your teachings?
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My baby is 12mo and hasnt been around other babies much yet. But I can see myself being same as you! We dont do screen time at all yet and I dont let him have junk food. I consider this the bare minimum rather than strict lol ideally he wouldn't be around swearing but almost everyone i know does without a filter and I dont have it in me to police vocabulary. Maybe if he starts repeating i will though 😅
I agree with you on the part about raising them but not so much the ‘bad behaviour’ because I’m not sure what you really mean by that? I’m very conscious of how I’m raising my daughter, her safety, what she eats, and all that stuff but she’s autistic so her behaviour might not meet some peoples standards because she can’t sit still and be quiet and will throw herself to the floor if she’s upset etc.
The only problem with this mindset about friendships though, is that everybody thinks their values are the best. For example I have anti-vax friends, who I could label as bad parents for not vaccinating, but they in turn could label me as a bad parent for vaccinating based off what they think is safer.
It’s all relative and I think what’s most important is finding good people who care about their children, even if that means their life looks a bit different to yours!
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