TW: death.

My husband k*lled himself in front of me and my two year old yesterday morning. I’m not sure how to move forward. I don’t know what to do or who to talk to. I’m not even sure why I’m making this post.

I guess if anyone has experienced the death of a spouse is there anything I should know or any advice you have. Idfk. I’m just numb.

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i’m so sorry for your loss and i’m so sorry that you had to experience this. loosing your spouse is devastating in itself and witnessing it is so much worse! all i want to say is take the time you need to heal and don’t allow anyone to make you feel bad for grieving. i prey that you find the help you need and find power to move forward in a healthy way for yourself and your child/children

Fuck im so sorry you are going through this, has to witness that and for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine how you feel, seriously if you need someone to talk to drop me a message❤️

I am so sorry you and your child had to witness that! That is terrifying!! I hope you and your child can get professional support! You are probably in shock rn and the sooner you get professional help for both of you the better off you will be for your mental health.

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Is it a woman's duty to have sex with their partner no matter how she feels and to even put her babies 2nd just to please him?

Even if she is post-partum, the default parent, doing everything around the house or maybe not feeling up to it... Should her duty be to have sex? Otherwise he has a "right" to go elsewhere for it or a "right" to treat her unfairly if doesn't? Also should the babies/children come last just to fulfill this "duty"?

Help. Are men really this lazy??

My boyfriend and I drunk till 4am on Friday night and I woke him at 7.45 on Saturday morning to open his front door to go to work. But he never messaged me till 3.40pm and said he was only wakened. He was really drunk on the Friday night but do guys really sleep this long ? I could never sleep this long no matter what!’

How is everyone having sex with so little time?

Honestly, having a newborn/baby under 1 is already challenging specially with the nights where the baby is fighting sleep…how is everyone here finding the time to have sex? Also with bigger wake windows and no family support around to watch the baby!!

When did contact naps end for you?

When were you able to put your baby in a crib or bassinet for naps without your baby waking up or crying.

Own bedroom

What age did everyone transfer their little ones into their own room? I feel like I’m holding on for my own selfish reasons 😭

Putting the baby down

Hey, I have a 5 month old baby boy who is so clingy towards me. I absolutely love it and I love him to pieces; however I cannot get him to go down at all. I know they say co sleeping is dangerous, but I’ve done a lot of research and follow a lot of women who co sleep with their babies on instagram to make sure I do it the safest way possible because he just will not go in his crib. If I put him down, he instantly cries and will scream the place down until I pick him up. I don’t know what to do, I can’t get anything done around the house and my body is just so achey all the time from holding him 24/7. Any tips??? I’ve tried loads but nothing works, I can’t even get him on the dummy, he can’t keep it in his mouth and he just wants to eat his hands all the time x