Postnatal depression

For those who have experienced it: did you notice it in yourself first or did someone point it out to you?

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I had it 15 years ago with my second. I noticed myself when I was about 4/5 months pp after my 2 year old daughter started copying what I was doing all the time. I had terrible OCD and was so scared my son was going to get hurt that I did everything 7 times. (Amongst other symptoms). It was a traumatic pregnancy and birth so I expected it, but still wasn't prepared!

I noticed it myself and plucked the courage to speak to my mum about it who helped me speak to my HV. When I was first diagnosed 15 years ago now, they used to give you forms to fill in on how you are feeling whenever the HV visited but seems they don"t do this anymore. With my second it got alot worse but luckily with my third (and now with a supportive other half) it isn't as bad but i regularly talk to my partner about how I am feeling and when I overwhelemed. It is important that you speak someone who you feel comfortable with and tell them how you are truly feeling. Sending hugs xx

in our community

Is it a woman's duty to have sex with their partner no matter how she feels and to even put her babies 2nd just to please him?

Even if she is post-partum, the default parent, doing everything around the house or maybe not feeling up to it... Should her duty be to have sex? Otherwise he has a "right" to go elsewhere for it or a "right" to treat her unfairly if doesn't? Also should the babies/children come last just to fulfill this "duty"?

Help. Are men really this lazy??

My boyfriend and I drunk till 4am on Friday night and I woke him at 7.45 on Saturday morning to open his front door to go to work. But he never messaged me till 3.40pm and said he was only wakened. He was really drunk on the Friday night but do guys really sleep this long ? I could never sleep this long no matter what!’

How is everyone having sex with so little time?

Honestly, having a newborn/baby under 1 is already challenging specially with the nights where the baby is fighting sleep…how is everyone here finding the time to have sex? Also with bigger wake windows and no family support around to watch the baby!!

When did contact naps end for you?

When were you able to put your baby in a crib or bassinet for naps without your baby waking up or crying.

Putting the baby down

Hey, I have a 5 month old baby boy who is so clingy towards me. I absolutely love it and I love him to pieces; however I cannot get him to go down at all. I know they say co sleeping is dangerous, but I’ve done a lot of research and follow a lot of women who co sleep with their babies on instagram to make sure I do it the safest way possible because he just will not go in his crib. If I put him down, he instantly cries and will scream the place down until I pick him up. I don’t know what to do, I can’t get anything done around the house and my body is just so achey all the time from holding him 24/7. Any tips??? I’ve tried loads but nothing works, I can’t even get him on the dummy, he can’t keep it in his mouth and he just wants to eat his hands all the time x

Intimacy at 36 weeks

Are people still managing to have sex? The last few times we’ve had sex I’ve felt so much pressure down below that I’ve genuinely feared that I might go into labour. Wondering if it might be time to stop until baby is here? 🤷‍♀️