Whether to keep 3rd baby

Me and my partner have 2 kids under 4 and we are expecting a 3rd. Our relationship hasn't been in the greatest place and I do constsntly think about leaving him but find it really hard in reality. I dont know whether to have an abortion or keep the baby. I feel like in my head I know the right thing would be not to bring another child into this world if our relationship is not stable. The risk of me becoming a single mum to 3 further down the line. Or do I keep it and just keep going but struggle mentally physically and emotionally...

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Mama I’ve 3 under 3 if I can do it so can you. Keeping the 3rd child was the best decision I could have ever made.

Really sorry you’re going through this. If I were in your position, I would probably keep the child since they are innocent in this situation. Have you considered couples therapy with your partner to attempt to work out the issues you’re facing? I hope you are able to work this out in a way that is best for you and your baby and that you find peace.

I would never want you to struggle and looks like you’re struggling in many ways. Pray, and ask for clarity ! But please please think about your mental health & what you feel like doing

I’ve never personally had an abortion but I do know people who have and they regret it weeks even days later. It’s your body so most definitely your choice momma but I was in a dv relationship when I had my first son and when I found I was pregnant with my second and BOTH my boys saved my life I don’t regret having 2 under 2 EVER! Never have and never will they are my life!!

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Nothing to talk about since becoming a mum (apart from my child)

Does anyone else feel like they have nothing to talk about since becoming a mum? I don't work and my child is 18 months so every day is spent with her. I go to a craft club once a week in the evening and I am also expecting a second child so don't have loads of energy to socilalise or even a big friendship circle. I'm generally happy with my life but I feel like when I get together with friends I have nothing to talk about with them apart from my child. Does anyone else feel like this?

Bestie 🥰 ❔

Okaay now, still looking for my bestie or lilttle group! 😭 Ya girl has 0 friends and need some NEOOW. I am 28 year old Sahm with 2 boys and 29 weeks with another boy. And engaged. Any ladies in the Bartow/Floyd area looking for their mommy group/village ? 💕 Let’s plan something for this weekend to get to know eachother? Please do not message me if you are not seriousss.. Lets connect and find our community ladies ! 💖💖

Single moms/ looking for friends

Any single mommas out there that are tryna navigate life without their partner and are looking for friends? Preferably in my area ? But if not that’s totally fine! Message me pls! I can’t see waves :)

sex drive higher than your partners

I’ve never really questioned this much, but I’m starting to feel alone in this and wondering if others are experiencing this too.
my sex drive is higher than my male partners. Its been like this since Ive gotten pregnant with my first, (i have 1 kid and two tots)
I can go everyday, twice a day.. its the way i relax, release, it gives me the best sleep, morning sex gives me a perky start… i also cosleep with two of three kids.. and he sleeps with the other. we have been sleeping in seperate rooms for 3 years now. and the sex just gets better and better. the orgasms have gotten better, more frequent. it’s just great! lol
He cannot keep up. he is like once a week mayb once every 10 daysish. ive been told female sex drive increases in their 30s while males decreases.
Am I alone?!

For mums who enjoy hanging out with their children.

I’m just curious, but what’s the feeling you get when you hang out/spend time with your child/children.

Because I’ve never enjoy hanging out with my child. I’m with him 24/8 so doing something with him or hanging out with him just seems like an extra chore on top off doing EVERYTHING. (I’m a single parent)

Just want to say I love my son to bits &feel guilty I feel this way & I wish I had whatever feeling you get hanging out/spending time with your children.

School cliques!

Any advice on not being in the school “Mum Clique”, it’s depressing and I don’t want to push myself on anyone. If friendships don’t fully form, I don’t push. But I always thought I would be great friends with the other Mums in my child’s school.

2nd question did you envision adulthood for it to be nothing of the sort? (Comment your response for this one please)