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Empty feeling

This sucks… I have longed to be a mom forever and now that I’m a mom of 2u2 with a really emotionally and mentally abusive baby daddy. I can’t help but feel empty inside… I have no money, no job (no where wants to hire me I’m barely a month pp), I can’t find a hobby that doesn’t involve money, No one on here responds back so I just gave up and only post when I need mom advice since none of my friends have kids and I’m not close to my sister enough to feel comfty to ask about mom things. I have no passion except for my girls… I love them and feel empty and dead without them as much as they are a handful. I ache inside when I’m at family social events solo and I have NOTHING to talk about but my girls… I barely have time in the day to do anything but manage to keep both girls alive and happy on top of all the house chores. I feel empty and that I don’t have much going for me except for being a mom… I’m in the process of leaving him and it’s so challenging and I’m getting so nervous about the future… it’s literally all I think about and please don’t tell me to not think about it cause I’m just gonna think about it since I have anxiety and that’s all I can think about because I’m getting probably give my girls the worst childhood ever because I can’t afford anything and I can’t get a job that can accommodate living. I can’t help but think I’m gonna have to live with my parents for almost an eternity since I can’t afford rent on top of bills…

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Toys/Play Ideas for 1 Year Old

Hiya,

Just looking for recommendations for toys/play ideas for a one year old?

What toys do your one year olds play with frequently and love?

Also what play ideas have worked well with your one year olds? I.e. “cleaning” animal toys for instance? (Not sure if that’s actually a more older play idea but hence the need for some ideas please).

Thanks in advance ☺️

Am I overreacting?

Bit annoyed, we have 2 kids, a 2yr old and 2 month old. Im ebf so bit limited to time with toddler and my hubby takes him out on the weekend usually leaving me at home with baby.
I said today, I cant do a full day out as im nto confident in bf in public etc. So hubby went out, then after his nap said hed go to his mums and be back for dinner.
Ive got toddlers dinner ready and it got to 4:50pm and he says hes given him dinner at his mums and he will be bk by 5:30pm.... we put him to bed at 6pm

Im pist off as ive literally not seen him pretty much all day, we give him dinner between 4:30/5pm so letting me know that late takes the piss.

So im literally ginna get him dressed and put him to bed im so upset

Just wanted somewhere to vent and reassurance im not overreacting

Am I the wrong one here? Why is my husband giving me a hard time post delivery?

I had my baby 21 days ago, it’s only me n my husband in the country and my pregnancy has been hard with hyperemesis for 4 months n I couldn’t get out of bed without his help, he’s been really kind n supportive throughout. But since the time we have had the baby, he’s throwing soo much anger n hatred on me I do not understand why. His patience level has dropped significantly, I see the work he does and doing my best not to add on any more work or even emotionally, keeping it to just myself. I lost my dad last year suddenly and my expectations are zero on anything right now, I’m just grateful that my health n the baby’s. I have literally been easier with my mood swings throughout than my regular periods. My mums here to help me from a month now n I really do need her and we need the extra hand. His parents were supposed to travel for the birth but couldn’t because their visas got rejected. I understand he misses them but is he jealous that my mums here n showing it on me? Hes not happy about things my mum does with the baby, like bathing n stuff n when the same thing comes from his mom, he’s happy to do. Im ignoring everything because i dont have the mental capacity right now. He’s getting into petty fights with me all the time, and says I treat him like shit n I think I’m PURE n everything he did is shit. This is out of no where, I just can’t take it anymore. He usually does the diaper change n i help him do, last night in between the fight, the baby needed a change n while he sat there, i did it n he did not show a sign of helping n next thing I hear is I’m not letting him do the baby things like am I stopping him n how I treat him like shit, he kept going on about how bad I’m and called me a ‘fucking egoistic bitch’ and walked out of the room. This was a first of its kind. He came back telling sorry n he dint mean it, by this time it was 5am n I hadn’t had a minute of sleep and been breastfeeding around the clock. I told him I need a break n to reduce interactions with me n care only for the baby for my sanity, but he still stop. I asked him to sleep in the guest room n my mum will help me in the night from today, he got my mum to swap right immediately. I never thought of him being so disrespectful and now with the child and increasing fights I’m soo afraid.

Am I being over dramatic about this or valid

Near end of pregnancy (any day now) and my husband wants to invite his family over to watch a fight and I said I’m not sure I’m up for hosting and having people over rn as I haven’t been feeling well and we have a small place so I can’t really hide away. He said I could just lay in our room while they are here if I’m not feeling good but idk I just don’t feel like having company. So we’re both kinda upset about it rn what so you think ?

Teething help!

Can teething cause a baby to cry on the bottle because the motion of sucking on the teat hurts their gums? My daughter is about to cut teeth any day and for the past 3 days she cries on the bottle like it’s hurting her gums. Every time I check to see if a tooth has cut she cries so I’m guessing her gums are super sore atm.

Night-time anxiety

I'm not sure what the point of this post is, but does anyone else get super anxious when it's about to message night time? I am super fortunate that my husband has a few weeks off on paternity leave with us, but we also have a toddler and we are currently dividing and conquering, so I am mainly on the newborn duties (easier as I am breastfeeding) and he is on toddler duties, but it means that overnight it just feels like it's me and this tiny helpless newborn and like I am totally alone. Realistically I am not, if I woke my husband up for help that would be no problem at all, but it all feels very lonely at night for some reason!