I feel so guilty

But I need a break. My 1 year old is poorly really not sure what’s wrong I’ve been told by the GP yesterday it’s just a cold but she has had one for 7 weeks (thanks to her sister starting nursery) but the last 3 days all she keeps doing is crying like she’s in pain. She won’t eat, She won’t sleep at night she just cries and honestly I can’t cope I feel like my house is a tip and that’s stressing me out.

My 2 year old I feel bad for as she keeps doing things to get my attention as it’s clearly mostly going on her sister. I’m just tired, their dad is barely around and when he is I just hear how hard his life is.

I’m just really trying to not lose it I literally just stood with my eyes closed whilst they both screamed at me 😣 after a couple of minutes they both did stop I think wondering what I was doing 🫣

Sorry just having a rant as I have no one to talk to. I know everyone has it hard just could do with 5 minutes peace and sleep.

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Husband talking too another Woman

Looking for some advice and just need to get it out anonymously.
I've been with my husband for years, we have a 2.5 year old together, a mortgage, and we've been trying for a second baby. Things have been off between us for a little while and I've felt him withdrawing, but I've been trying to make it work because I love my family.
Something felt wrong so I looked at his phone and found messages between him and a girl he went to college with. She's recently gone through a divorce. He's texting her constantly, including checking in on her at 6:30 in the morning. He's asking about her dating life, giving her compliments, and he even invited to buy her a drink and to soft play with the kids.
I confronted him and he says he knows how it looks but that she's just a friend.
I haven't told anyone in my life because I'm scared and don't want to worry people around me.
Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Did you believe them when they said it was just a friend? I just need to hear from people who understand.

Food shop weekly cost

How much are people spending on food shopping a week? We spend between £80-100 a week, this is for 2 adults and 2 kids, a dog and a cat. Do our shopping in Tesco and most weeks we will end up in a shopping for washing detergent, dishwasher tablets, animal food etc as we like to physically look at what is the best deals that week in a shop.

I just hear people doing these videos about how they can spend £30 for 4/5 meals and I have no idea how they do this!!

How are we 'disciplining' an 18 month old or is it not possible?

I'm feeling like I have no clue how to parent. Mu natural instinct is to say "no don't do that, come here and do xxx" - my son totally understands but proceeds to test our limits. I try to stay calm but sometimes I have an involuntary harsh toned "don't do that" and I feel terrible. He understands "no" but doesn't listen to me. He's more likely to listen to his dad's instructions. I try to teach packing away - but its a hit or miss. I put so much pressure on myself to be a good mom - but do I try and instill obedience now and ensure consequences when he does what he knows he should not or do I just leave him be and bite on shoes, eat soil, put stones in his mouth, unpack all the cupboards and constantly throw his plate and cup on the floor? I know they love a reaction and are testing cause and effect but it's a lot especially when juggling workplace stress and life admin. I'm not complaining - I adore this lil smarty pants so much but I'm feeling clueless rn. Is it just the stage they're at now or do I try and push for good behavior?

Teething

My 3 and a half month old already seems to be showing signs of teething. He’s dribbling quite a bit, he appears to have two little white marks either side of his gums and the main thing is he’s constantly got his hands in his mouth but the issue is he’s making himself gag a lot and the skin on his hands is going a bit dry. Can anyone recommend anything I could give him to bite down on rather than his hands?

Too fast or normal?

My ex of 6 months is seeing a new woman who is also a single mother. I found out through my toddler repeatedly saying their names so weeks later I asked who they were and he told me then.

Still believe he is lying about her spending time in their home the weekends but I believe he is a pathological liar now.

I am furious I was never told that my 2 year old was spending time with them. I told him I felt violated and was angry and do not trust him now as a co parent. I was angry and all he could say was ‘you don’t control me anymore’ ‘you don’t get to say what I do’.

Zero accountability.

Finally seeing that I may have been with someone with NPD or BPD. It’s scary to look back at the 7 years and think I was going along and enabling this illusion of a false self.

Also found out that he lied to his work as he works in HR about the relationship and used a scapegoat who he went to the gym with.

Actually can’t fathom this man who was self proclaimed man of his word, valued loyalty, family man.

I see so clearly now the illusion.

Constantly feel like im parenting wrong

It's one of those days where I'm in a bit of a slump. Lately I've been extremely discouraged because people have been overtly observant and critical of my decision to be a SAHM. My child is happy and he isn't missing anything, but regardless, I'm starting to feel less confident in my decision.
I'm curious to know what the week looks like for you guys, realistically, if you dont mind sharing 😭 I know we're all learning on the job, so I'd like to know what's working for everyone and maybe try some new stuff out in our routine.