Mother in law at it again

So I have really terrible in laws, I’ve dealt with it for almost 14 years. We have 3 kids- 10,7, and 2. They’re never involved, like we have to beg them to want to be in our kids lives. And last night my father in law said they want to take the kids to the beach, under one condition. My 2 year old cannot come. They say she’s too young and just can’t “deal” with it. I didn’t respond because I don’t even know what to say. I know what I should say, but it would be starting a war. Any advice? My husband is also helpless. He’s so numb to them, and will not rock the boat.

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Husband talking too another Woman

Looking for some advice and just need to get it out anonymously.
I've been with my husband for years, we have a 2.5 year old together, a mortgage, and we've been trying for a second baby. Things have been off between us for a little while and I've felt him withdrawing, but I've been trying to make it work because I love my family.
Something felt wrong so I looked at his phone and found messages between him and a girl he went to college with. She's recently gone through a divorce. He's texting her constantly, including checking in on her at 6:30 in the morning. He's asking about her dating life, giving her compliments, and he even invited to buy her a drink and to soft play with the kids.
I confronted him and he says he knows how it looks but that she's just a friend.
I haven't told anyone in my life because I'm scared and don't want to worry people around me.
Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Did you believe them when they said it was just a friend? I just need to hear from people who understand.

Food shop weekly cost

How much are people spending on food shopping a week? We spend between £80-100 a week, this is for 2 adults and 2 kids, a dog and a cat. Do our shopping in Tesco and most weeks we will end up in a shopping for washing detergent, dishwasher tablets, animal food etc as we like to physically look at what is the best deals that week in a shop.

I just hear people doing these videos about how they can spend £30 for 4/5 meals and I have no idea how they do this!!

How are we 'disciplining' an 18 month old or is it not possible?

I'm feeling like I have no clue how to parent. Mu natural instinct is to say "no don't do that, come here and do xxx" - my son totally understands but proceeds to test our limits. I try to stay calm but sometimes I have an involuntary harsh toned "don't do that" and I feel terrible. He understands "no" but doesn't listen to me. He's more likely to listen to his dad's instructions. I try to teach packing away - but its a hit or miss. I put so much pressure on myself to be a good mom - but do I try and instill obedience now and ensure consequences when he does what he knows he should not or do I just leave him be and bite on shoes, eat soil, put stones in his mouth, unpack all the cupboards and constantly throw his plate and cup on the floor? I know they love a reaction and are testing cause and effect but it's a lot especially when juggling workplace stress and life admin. I'm not complaining - I adore this lil smarty pants so much but I'm feeling clueless rn. Is it just the stage they're at now or do I try and push for good behavior?

Teething

My 3 and a half month old already seems to be showing signs of teething. He’s dribbling quite a bit, he appears to have two little white marks either side of his gums and the main thing is he’s constantly got his hands in his mouth but the issue is he’s making himself gag a lot and the skin on his hands is going a bit dry. Can anyone recommend anything I could give him to bite down on rather than his hands?

We’re in a MINE! phase.

I think my almost two year old has picked up the word mine from nursery because last week she came home saying it and now she won’t stop. She runs around with her toys shouting “mine!” which is fine because they are hers toys. However she also grabs things which aren’t hers and claims them as her own and will not let go.
She’s been doing it in shops too!! 🫣😂🙈 yesterday I had to buy a Bluey and Bingo toy set and a packet of underwear from Matalan because she wouldn’t put them back. I know I could have dragged her out kicking and screaming but I was on my own, I’m full of cold and I didn’t have the energy.

Help! Is this a phase and it will pass or what because I’m nervous to go back to shops with her now.

Constantly feel like im parenting wrong

It's one of those days where I'm in a bit of a slump. Lately I've been extremely discouraged because people have been overtly observant and critical of my decision to be a SAHM. My child is happy and he isn't missing anything, but regardless, I'm starting to feel less confident in my decision.
I'm curious to know what the week looks like for you guys, realistically, if you dont mind sharing 😭 I know we're all learning on the job, so I'd like to know what's working for everyone and maybe try some new stuff out in our routine.