Boy in my son's year at school saying he wants to fight him

Son is 12, he said that he doesn't know the boy well but knows where he lives. He is a sensitive boy and doesn't want to fight. He said he doesn't want us to speak to the school about it.

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Either speak to school notify them and catch his parents and speak to them

My first step would be the parents, especially if you know where this boy lives. If they brush it off or don’t care then school so they are made aware and in case of a fight because the danger was foreseeable, the school failed to take reasonable measures, and the failure directly led to the injury hopefully they won’t suspend ur child but that’s up to the principal, And teach him self defense anyways you’ll never know when he could really need it.
Also make it clear this is a threat to your child’s physical safety when notifying them.
Really hope everything works out for him it’s not easy being the sensitive kid who doesn’t even understand why someone wants to fight them. He’ll be embarrassed u called the school but his safety is more important

All of the above

Going to the boys house could seem a little intrusive as we've never seen the boy or his parents before.
My husband is saying there's no point informing the school as they won't do anything but I'd rather at least try and hope that they'd sensitively try to prevent it from happening 🤷‍♀️

I would try my best not to take a child’s autonomy away if he’s saying no thank you it’s no thank you. I would offer some of the things that you have said here and if he says no thank you to them too. It’s no thank you.

I would speak to the school and see if they can be separated next year in terms of classes. Maybe just ask the school at this point to keep an eye out unless it escalates.
Going to the parents house could make the situation worse.

I would set my kid down and explain to them why I think telling the school is the right decision. But ultimately if my kid says no, then I wouldn’t tell them yet.

If he won’t let you tell the school, what does your son want you to do? I would include him in this decision as much as possible. Maybe he wants to wait and see if it goes away. Or maybe he wants to learn some self defense or make a safety plan.

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Looking for some advice and just need to get it out anonymously.
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I confronted him and he says he knows how it looks but that she's just a friend.
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