No sex…

Me and my partner haven’t slept together for at least 2 months now. I am 5 month pp and since having the baby we’ve maybe only done it 2/3 times at a push. This is only because I’ve insisted it too. I feel like I’m the only one who ever wants it and then it makes me think is he getting it elsewhere like what man does not want sex?

I have opened up and spoken to him about this and he has reassured me there is no one else etc. We have bickered alot since little one arrive and I know that doesn’t help. It’s just hard because I feel like the no sex is contributing to the bickering. I feel selfish wanting it and I keep asking him about it and the topic just changes or he doesn’t respond. Maybe all the arguments have pushed him away but I always feel like once we have sex it makes us closer.

Idk it’s got me reminiscing about our life before baby and how our relationship has changed.

Other than stop arguing ( it’s not always that easy) what can I do to make him in the mood? Or just re-spark the love between us as I feel like it’s gone

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When I stopped having sex with my ex he was for sure getting it somewhere else don’t go by words & it should come naturally.. my guy now can’t live with out my sex if this continues for a long time maybe make changes because you don’t deserve to be confused or miserable

Remember that sleep deprivation makes everything worse and having a newborn is probably one of the most stressful times for your relationship. It sounds cliché but I think just trying to be open and talk about it would help. There was a while where I was never really in the mood and I felt so guilty because I knew my husband wanted it more than me but I was just so tired all the time and the longer it was, the more pressure I felt - it was never anything to do with him personally. So maybe understanding the reasons might help?

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