What days to work/ put toddler in nursery?

Pros and cons of both

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How are we 'disciplining' an 18 month old or is it not possible?

I'm feeling like I have no clue how to parent. Mu natural instinct is to say "no don't do that, come here and do xxx" - my son totally understands but proceeds to test our limits. I try to stay calm but sometimes I have an involuntary harsh toned "don't do that" and I feel terrible. He understands "no" but doesn't listen to me. He's more likely to listen to his dad's instructions. I try to teach packing away - but its a hit or miss. I put so much pressure on myself to be a good mom - but do I try and instill obedience now and ensure consequences when he does what he knows he should not or do I just leave him be and bite on shoes, eat soil, put stones in his mouth, unpack all the cupboards and constantly throw his plate and cup on the floor? I know they love a reaction and are testing cause and effect but it's a lot especially when juggling workplace stress and life admin. I'm not complaining - I adore this lil smarty pants so much but I'm feeling clueless rn. Is it just the stage they're at now or do I try and push for good behavior?

In laws from hell

Hey, so I’ve been with my partner for 11 years and his family more or less have always disliked me. But now we have a baby I refuse to stand for the bs anymore as my baby won’t be put through that but I’m constantly being made out to be the bad guys it’s always me that’s in the wrong. My partner is amazing but he’s not always the best at getting his point across when it comes to them and they just talk over him in anyway. It always results in being the one to give in and I’m sick to death I don’t know what to do anymore to give you some examples of what I have to deal with. My mother in law called our neice “ a self absorbed little C” because she’s struggling adapting to having a little brother. She’s called our nephew “ a silly little twat” because he was “naughty” at school. The first time she met my daughter at a 1 week old!!!!! She took my baby off me took my chair and called her a little C because she wouldn’t keep her eyes open for a picture. Then called me miserable 🙈 the first time she met me when I was 14 she said it’s never going to work you may as well just be friends over 11 years later I’m still an issue. I’m told I hold a grudge and untill the last 8 months tops I’ve never said anything horrible/ never defended ourselves/ never said anything aparat from one thing which was about 4 years ago and it gets brought up everytime my partner has “words” with her🙈 if we see our friends that live near them we get moaned at and if we don’t we get moaned at. Every time weve visited in the last 4 years he’s lived me we get greeted with “ what the f are you doing here” oh and also maybe like 2 months ago we fell out with one of his sisters because she was slating and I mean she was being horrible about my boyfriend and because I defended him I was banished from her house. Oh and his other sister and brother in law blocked me and then decided to unblock me and now I’m in the wrong because I want nothing to do with them!!!!!!

What would you do?

(Sorry if these makes no sense, also this is just of the top of my head there is so much more)

I miss morning

I miss my mornings, I miss waking up making a cup of tea, sit in silence or watch something good. I didn't realize i missed it till, last week. My girl normally wakes up at 7am, i woke up at 7 expecting her to be up. She was not. So I decided to make tea. I was making tea and could not help,but to enjoy making the tea in silence and take my time. I normally do it in a hurry cause my girl needs me. I finish making the tea. I sit on the couch and I then realize how quite it is. I actually laugh and was surprised to have this time to myself. I then decided to watch a movie. Was so excited, only 10 minutes into the movie and my girl woke up. I was happy to see her, she then asked to play in the backyard, and i felt sad. After that just been feeling sad and mad in the morning. I miss not being asked questions, is what ur doing mommy? Play mommy? Book? Even if i tell her to play it will be for just 5 minutes that she'll play by herself. She will only leave me alone if am cleaning,but I don't want to clean the moment i wake up. I just want hour of morning silence. I feel selfish,but I can't help,but to miss. I love my girl,but I miss my mornings

Constantly feel like im parenting wrong

It's one of those days where I'm in a bit of a slump. Lately I've been extremely discouraged because people have been overtly observant and critical of my decision to be a SAHM. My child is happy and he isn't missing anything, but regardless, I'm starting to feel less confident in my decision.
I'm curious to know what the week looks like for you guys, realistically, if you dont mind sharing 😭 I know we're all learning on the job, so I'd like to know what's working for everyone and maybe try some new stuff out in our routine.

Too fast or normal?

My ex of 6 months is seeing a new woman who is also a single mother. I found out through my toddler repeatedly saying their names so weeks later I asked who they were and he told me then.

Still believe he is lying about her spending time in their home the weekends but I believe he is a pathological liar now.

I am furious I was never told that my 2 year old was spending time with them. I told him I felt violated and was angry and do not trust him now as a co parent. I was angry and all he could say was ‘you don’t control me anymore’ ‘you don’t get to say what I do’.

Zero accountability.

Finally seeing that I may have been with someone with NPD or BPD. It’s scary to look back at the 7 years and think I was going along and enabling this illusion of a false self.

Also found out that he lied to his work as he works in HR about the relationship and used a scapegoat who he went to the gym with.

Actually can’t fathom this man who was self proclaimed man of his word, valued loyalty, family man.

I see so clearly now the illusion.

Does your partner actually listen when you go to share things with them? Especially when u are clearly happy/excited about it.

I always have to listen to his “Ted talks” about AI shit for hours everyday but anytime I go to share something new I want to do with the kids (a baby disco rave thing on our daughter 1st bday lol) and was told he doesn’t care about “that shit”, it’s like this for most stuff even with my health he acts like he knows more about my body than me or the doctors because ai and google (Eds, lupus,mcas, autism etc) I just never feel heard and when I try to bring up my feeling, its usually a combo of this conversation never happened, or it’s an immediate argument or “that’s your problem to deal with not mine” because my feelings got hurt and didn’t control it, which is hard when words make ur heart crack sometimes. More I write the more I feel like this man doesn’t even like me🫪