In laws from hell

Hey, so I’ve been with my partner for 11 years and his family more or less have always disliked me. But now we have a baby I refuse to stand for the bs anymore as my baby won’t be put through that but I’m constantly being made out to be the bad guys it’s always me that’s in the wrong. My partner is amazing but he’s not always the best at getting his point across when it comes to them and they just talk over him in anyway. It always results in being the one to give in and I’m sick to death I don’t know what to do anymore to give you some examples of what I have to deal with. My mother in law called our neice “ a self absorbed little C” because she’s struggling adapting to having a little brother. She’s called our nephew “ a silly little twat” because he was “naughty” at school. The first time she met my daughter at a 1 week old!!!!! She took my baby off me took my chair and called her a little C because she wouldn’t keep her eyes open for a picture. Then called me miserable 🙈 the first time she met me when I was 14 she said it’s never going to work you may as well just be friends over 11 years later I’m still an issue. I’m told I hold a grudge and untill the last 8 months tops I’ve never said anything horrible/ never defended ourselves/ never said anything aparat from one thing which was about 4 years ago and it gets brought up everytime my partner has “words” with her🙈 if we see our friends that live near them we get moaned at and if we don’t we get moaned at. Every time weve visited in the last 4 years he’s lived me we get greeted with “ what the f are you doing here” oh and also maybe like 2 months ago we fell out with one of his sisters because she was slating and I mean she was being horrible about my boyfriend and because I defended him I was banished from her house. Oh and his other sister and brother in law blocked me and then decided to unblock me and now I’m in the wrong because I want nothing to do with them!!!!!!

What would you do?

(Sorry if these makes no sense, also this is just of the top of my head there is so much more)

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Husband talking too another Woman

Looking for some advice and just need to get it out anonymously.
I've been with my husband for years, we have a 2.5 year old together, a mortgage, and we've been trying for a second baby. Things have been off between us for a little while and I've felt him withdrawing, but I've been trying to make it work because I love my family.
Something felt wrong so I looked at his phone and found messages between him and a girl he went to college with. She's recently gone through a divorce. He's texting her constantly, including checking in on her at 6:30 in the morning. He's asking about her dating life, giving her compliments, and he even invited to buy her a drink and to soft play with the kids.
I confronted him and he says he knows how it looks but that she's just a friend.
I haven't told anyone in my life because I'm scared and don't want to worry people around me.
Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Did you believe them when they said it was just a friend? I just need to hear from people who understand.

Food shop weekly cost

How much are people spending on food shopping a week? We spend between £80-100 a week, this is for 2 adults and 2 kids, a dog and a cat. Do our shopping in Tesco and most weeks we will end up in a shopping for washing detergent, dishwasher tablets, animal food etc as we like to physically look at what is the best deals that week in a shop.

I just hear people doing these videos about how they can spend £30 for 4/5 meals and I have no idea how they do this!!

How are we 'disciplining' an 18 month old or is it not possible?

I'm feeling like I have no clue how to parent. Mu natural instinct is to say "no don't do that, come here and do xxx" - my son totally understands but proceeds to test our limits. I try to stay calm but sometimes I have an involuntary harsh toned "don't do that" and I feel terrible. He understands "no" but doesn't listen to me. He's more likely to listen to his dad's instructions. I try to teach packing away - but its a hit or miss. I put so much pressure on myself to be a good mom - but do I try and instill obedience now and ensure consequences when he does what he knows he should not or do I just leave him be and bite on shoes, eat soil, put stones in his mouth, unpack all the cupboards and constantly throw his plate and cup on the floor? I know they love a reaction and are testing cause and effect but it's a lot especially when juggling workplace stress and life admin. I'm not complaining - I adore this lil smarty pants so much but I'm feeling clueless rn. Is it just the stage they're at now or do I try and push for good behavior?

Teething

My 3 and a half month old already seems to be showing signs of teething. He’s dribbling quite a bit, he appears to have two little white marks either side of his gums and the main thing is he’s constantly got his hands in his mouth but the issue is he’s making himself gag a lot and the skin on his hands is going a bit dry. Can anyone recommend anything I could give him to bite down on rather than his hands?

Too fast or normal?

My ex of 6 months is seeing a new woman who is also a single mother. I found out through my toddler repeatedly saying their names so weeks later I asked who they were and he told me then.

Still believe he is lying about her spending time in their home the weekends but I believe he is a pathological liar now.

I am furious I was never told that my 2 year old was spending time with them. I told him I felt violated and was angry and do not trust him now as a co parent. I was angry and all he could say was ‘you don’t control me anymore’ ‘you don’t get to say what I do’.

Zero accountability.

Finally seeing that I may have been with someone with NPD or BPD. It’s scary to look back at the 7 years and think I was going along and enabling this illusion of a false self.

Also found out that he lied to his work as he works in HR about the relationship and used a scapegoat who he went to the gym with.

Actually can’t fathom this man who was self proclaimed man of his word, valued loyalty, family man.

I see so clearly now the illusion.

Constantly feel like im parenting wrong

It's one of those days where I'm in a bit of a slump. Lately I've been extremely discouraged because people have been overtly observant and critical of my decision to be a SAHM. My child is happy and he isn't missing anything, but regardless, I'm starting to feel less confident in my decision.
I'm curious to know what the week looks like for you guys, realistically, if you dont mind sharing 😭 I know we're all learning on the job, so I'd like to know what's working for everyone and maybe try some new stuff out in our routine.