I’m a sahm to a beautiful nearly 3 month old boy and I think I’m jealous of my husband. He gets hours to play games by himself and he goes to work (yes I understand most people don’t see that as a break but it sure seems like it) and goodness gracious he gets to sleep in on the weekends and the rational side of me knows I’m just overthinking it but why does it seem like all I get is to be my sons mom 20 hours a day while he gets to be himself 20 hours a day? Is it unfair to feel like I have to schedule time for myself while he gets to just be?
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Girl I understand. My fiance works blue collar so I try to be understanding that his work isn't really a break even if it feels like it to me sometimes. I still feel some jealousy especially since even when he is home our daughter is definitely a mamas girl and I carry a majority of that load but we have an understanding that on weekends he gets up with her unless I choose to. Its a very small thing but getting even an extra hour to myself is a game changer some days. I would highly recommend being honest about how you're feeling (even if it's hard) and schedule a time that is automatically his time with your son where you can sleep, eat, relax whatever you need.

I feel the same. Any time he gets away from baby I feel its like a break. I love being a mom but I've sacrificed all my hobbies and don't get time to myself at all.

Girl me to, how I wish I can be just me. I never realized how good it was. To just do nothing .

We live the same life lol I told my husband I wish I could be a dad some days it just seems easier

Same here! I genuinely feel like the only time I have to myself is when I shower. And I keep telling myself because my mans working that it's okay and that's the life of a sahm but it's exhaustingggg. BUT! I did recently break that down to my boyfriend and explain how I felt and that sometimes I just want alone time and he deadass understood like we went to the pool and I just wanted to hangout in the hot tub for a min (our daughters 8 months old and was with us) so he played with her on the splash pad for a little bit and left me alone it was great

And girls! You don't have to give up your hobbies! I genuinely still do some of the manyyyy hobbies I've obtained I'll either wait till she's sleeping or give her some toys and she'll just play by herself I know if you have multiple kids it could be harder but I think once they're all older you'll get more time back yk?