Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Don’t Know What I Want 😭

Hi everyone, just came here to vent and possibly see if anyone feels the same way.
I am 29 years old and I have spent all my life trying so many different hobbies, activities, schools, and jobs.
Quick List of things since graduating high school:
- college (creative writing)
- online classes (computer science)
- Vet Tech classes
- Japanese language classes
- Guitar lessons
- Esthetician School
NONE of which I finished 🤦🏽‍♀️ some for financial reasons or just realizing I didn’t like it anymore. I feel like a failure who can never finish anything.

Things I’ve been thinking about getting into:
- EMT classes
- Barber School
- Childbirth Education
I’ve also tried getting into sewing and woodworking. Yoga and baking.
All of this in hopes of finding my purpose or passion. That big “AHA” moment where you finally feel like you know what you wanna do with your life.
The only thing I’ve truly ever enjoyed is being a mom but being just a mom doesn’t pay the bills and like most Americans me and my partner are struggling at the moment. I want to help contribute financially (though my partner is fine with me being a sahm) and the issue is we want to move into a bigger place to hopefully have another child but life is so expensive.
I want to start a business from home or go into a very flexible career but I deep down don’t feel the motivation to do anything and if I push myself I talk myself out of things with overthinking about all the cons, and what ifs and what could go wrongs. I just feel so lost.
If you made it this far thanks for reading all my thoughts and woes. Like I said hopefully I’m not alone in these feelings 🫠

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

it sounds like maybe you should have an at home daycare. Find out what it takes to get licensed and insured. Start with some people you know maybe? It’s amazing that you love being a mom so much. It’s such a hard job. Maybe you could spread love with other children. That way you can bring in money and do the thing that gives you a lot of joy?

That being said, I totally understand how you feel about not knowing what you want to do. I’m a stay at home mom now, but before that I was a Surgical Tech. For the last eight years that I was doing it, I was working with a plastic surgeon. I was always mad that I didn’t finish a bachelors degree or get a better job where I could support myself and my kids. and when I think about going back to work when the kids are in school, I’m trying to decide if I should go to nursing school or dental hygiene because the thought of going back to a hospital and having to do every surgeon in every specialty is so horrible.

in our community

Not attending my friends divorce party, as a married woman.

I love my friend .. but I also love my marriage and don’t want to spend a night screaming how men are trash and how we don’t need them.

Also my friend is very fiery and problematic I believe was the cause of the break up.

I’m also Christian and don’t want any anti marriage energy around me.

Thoughts? Am I bad for not going. I’m always there as a shoulder to cry on but I do not wish to celebrate the divorce.

Another baby or wait for stability/help?

I am 33. Have a toddler.
Over the last couple of months I have had the desire for another baby.
However, the situation is not great as husband works abroad.
I am already having a hard time managing as it is (I work as well).

Please put some sense into me. I think part of the desire is the feeling of running out of time.

2 of my friends think I should go ahead anyway.

New mom!

I have a 2 month old boy! I need mom friends because i am an introvert and stay home all day

Do you care for your kids by yourself?

Do you have more then two kids you care for with no help other then your husband? I'm really feeling alone. It genuinely sucks seeing how many people have family support and all I have is my husband and he drives trucks so that means he's gone most the week and I'm by myself 😔

FTM need friends

I’m a first time momma to a 3 month old bby girl, I’m home all day & need some friends

Hello! Question lol

So I’ve always been curious. Does age matter when making friends!? Like obviously an adult and of age. But do you guys consider maturity or just age in general when making friends. I’ve tried to be friends with all sorts of ages.