How to break the cycle

I moved back in with my bf and it’s starting to go bad again. I feel so stupid for believing he’d actually change how he treats me. I lived with my mom for about 8 months and he’d tell me all the time I miss you, come back, I’ll treat you like a queen, I’ll do things for you, I’ll help out around the house, i cry when your gone. Things like that. Then I came back and about 2 months into living together again he’s going back to the same habits he’s had before. Makes me feel so incredibly stupid for coming back. I might have an opportunity to leave but I have no real financial support to back me up. I want to take him for child support but I know he’d leave. What hurts the most is he’s a good dad and our kids love him so much. I want to stay for my kids but I feel depressed and my mental health just sucks around him. I am constantly questioning myself and my self worth. If I’m actually the crazy controlling one. If I’m actually the one that is awful. I question it all. My family definitely doesn’t think it’s me but I question myself when I talk to him. I hate feeling like this. Sorry that was a lot

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I was at the playground today and another mum was giving out ice-creams to the kids (Magnum style with chocolate and caramel). She asked if my son would like one and I explained that he's not really had things like that yet, but thanked her anyway. She seemed shocked and asked how old he is, when I said 20 months she was like "awww that's crazy"

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My partner and I have a 15 month old and 3 months pregnant with our second he opened a business around the time our son was born that requires a lot of his time and attention.

To cut a long story short, he rarely has our son alone, he only really spends time with him at night before he goes to bed/some time on the weekend, but I am expected to be fully responsible during those times. There are some weeks that he hasn’t even changed our son’s nappy once. If I ever have an appointment/social event I have to arrange childcare or plan around our son’s nursery hours.

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