Brother in law about to ruin his life

My BIL and I are pretty close, because him and my husband are best friends. Last year, his wife left him and the divorce was very ugly. I supported her leaving him because their relationship was toxic, but that didn’t mean they were bad people individually. Then my husband and I ended up being collateral damage in the divorce, and neither of them talk to us. His mom told us that BIL has been really going through it, and moved in this girl he met two weeks prior, and her new born baby, into his house, which he kept in the divorce. Then she was doing drugs, and he was raising the baby, so he kicked her out and then their sister (my sister in law) ended up involving CYS. Then the next week, he started dating tho girls cousin, and now they have been together 1 month and he’s selling his house and rehoming his pets to move in with her… this woman he has known for ONE MONTH. And everyone knows the relationship will not work, and he’s going to put himself in a really bad situation, but I don’t know how to get him to see this… also he and my husband have made up and they’ve been spending no time together, and I pointed out that he doesn’t even ever talk about who his girlfriend is/what she’s like, he only ever talks about what she has and what he’ll have going with her.

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Jealousy.

I’m a sahm to a beautiful nearly 3 month old boy and I think I’m jealous of my husband. He gets hours to play games by himself and he goes to work (yes I understand most people don’t see that as a break but it sure seems like it) and goodness gracious he gets to sleep in on the weekends and the rational side of me knows I’m just overthinking it but why does it seem like all I get is to be my sons mom 20 hours a day while he gets to be himself 20 hours a day? Is it unfair to feel like I have to schedule time for myself while he gets to just be?

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Yes I’ve brought this up to him and he says he gets it and does his best to give me that time but after a couple days it feels like it goes right back and I’ve pretty much trauma driven myself to believe that since I haven’t been keeping up with the house work I don’t deserve time to myself which is not his fault in the slightest I always choose to keep the baby while I watch tv and make dinner so he can have his de-stress time but I tend to let myself fall to the waist side and keep pushing past it till I cry to him at midnight about how much I’m struggling.

Struggles with Partner

Hey, just looking for a bit of advice really as I don’t have many friends to talk to.

My partner and I have a 15 month old and 3 months pregnant with our second he opened a business around the time our son was born that requires a lot of his time and attention.

To cut a long story short, he rarely has our son alone, he only really spends time with him at night before he goes to bed/some time on the weekend, but I am expected to be fully responsible during those times. There are some weeks that he hasn’t even changed our son’s nappy once. If I ever have an appointment/social event I have to arrange childcare or plan around our son’s nursery hours.

He doesn’t do much in the house at all, but I’m fine with that as I don’t have set working hours due to helping with the business so I spend a lot of time at home.

The issue I have is that I am expected to care for the home, care for our son (who sleeps absolutely terribly), and help with the business daily. Whilst I have allowed him to focus solely on the business.

It feels like I am being stretched to do more, and he can be very hurtful with the way that he speaks to me. Sometimes I think I’d be better off doing it alone as honestly it feels that way sometimes now.

Just looking for some advice really or anyone who has been through something similar? 😞

How much does partner help?

Heyyy, I’m just wondering how much everyone’s partners help out with baby?

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I am SICK of family asking my 2 year old for a kiss or a hug. Shes suspected autistic so is only really affectionate towards my husband and I (and that is also very rare!)
I dont want people kissing my kids as it is but to try force her when she really doesnt like it!!
I have tried the "she isnt affectionate" but how else can I phrase it without offending anyone??
She really just loves her own company.

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I have a husband who is doing uber and don’t have time for us he won’t sleep at home and now have been saying he sleeps in the car, that don’t seem to be true. He sometimes come home to sleep and that’s afternoon or late in the morning…

Last two years or more we have no physical contact he won’t make the time. All he says is his paying for credit card interests which don’t seem to finish for 3 years now. He takes my toddler once a week to nursery and because his sleepy that becomes hard for him. Long story short I did find him cheating writing messages to someone aboard and god knows what else there is he has few phones with screen blackouts. His bank account statements don’t come home. Last week me and my daughter went to grandmas for 2 days and came home without telling him and I found a photo of a child 8 months in his purse photo section. I called him to the pub to speak he said it’s his uncles grandson (not an uncle a friend he says he does some work with him) I’ve never met this man. Apparently in turkey he and his uncle went to a health care office to get a health card for his grandson but because of parking problems the uncle couldn’t come out. Last one week I’ve been going crazy and I don’t believe him. It’s so shit that we can not find out if our husbands have any other child under his registration in uk or aboard. I am really sad and not sure in what to do now. I can only divorce