I feel like a awful mother

It might be weird but long story short while cleaning by accident a plastic basket ended up on the cooker and start smoking the rooms. (Studio flat so smoke everywhere)
I got rid of the smoke pretty quickly and it wasn’t bad enough to trigger the fire alarm but I have been crying for the past 3 hours because the baby was in the house and I feel awful of how can I make such a stupid mistake. What if anything worse would’ve happened to the baby. What if the smoke affected him in any way. (He s alert,feeding and totally fine so far) but I can’t settle the feeling that I’m a terrible mother and I put him in danger.
My partner is keep trying to reassure me that it was just an accident and could’ve happened to anyone but I just start crying over and over again…

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It was a genuine mistake that could of happened to anyone, your partner is right. Don’t beat urself up too much, u should give yourself more credit for reacting so quickly and then also getting rid of the smoke.
If you are worrying about your baby, try ringing through to your GP to have them checked over.

I think you acted brilliantly 🥰

Something worse didnt happen because you responded quickly and made the situation safe immediately. After having a baby our brain rewires and means 2 things (among others) happen, 1. Our totaly focus is our baby and the things that feel important to providing for that baby meaning we often end up with 'baby brain' overlooking thibgs or making mistakes we wouldnt normally 2. We are hyper aware of risk to said baby and when something happens or nearly happens we go into total overdrive as to how dangerous and awful this could have been, in an attempt to prioritise babys safety, but actually just making us all anxious wrecks 😅. In top of this weve got disrupted sleep, hormonal shifts and learning a brand new, very important job, in a baptism of fire. Try to give yourself a break and maybe take baby out for a walk, get you both out of the house for a bit x

It is normal to feel this guilt after something like that. It sounds like a frightening situation, but it was an accident and your partner is right to say it could have happened to anyone

You are not a bad mum because of that. You are well, your baby is well and you took care of it so fast that not even the smoke alarm went off. You were a super mama, the alarm would probably startle him more than anything

Take a deep breath and try to do something to calm yourself down

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