Healing from a trauma bond while expecting 💔🤰
I’m 27 weeks pregnant and dealing with the aftermath of a trauma-bonded relationship ending. He moved on while we were still together, I was 14 weeks pregnant. The baby was planned, we tried for just over a year. My brain is torturing me comparing myself to his new partner, even though I know he wasn't good for me. I just want him back, it hurts so much. I just can’t seem to switch my mind off and I’m so fed up. I really want to focus on my baby, but the withdrawal feels impossible today. Has anyone else managed to heal from a toxic ex while pregnant? I’d love to connect with anyone who understands & can give me any hope.
I need some serious help
I’ve been tracking and noticed a pattern, every time we see my mum, sleep, our the window, doesn’t matter how asleep he is before I put him down or how well he was sleeping before, if they’re alone for even 2 seconds he just screams the second he is put down and I leave the room, he didn’t do this after it was my mum and my brother in the room and I left for 2 seconds, only if it’s only her. Every single time, nap time is a 3 hour screaming match, I cannot cope, how do I get him back to his system, he has to have it so specific or it ruins night sleep. What the hell has she done to him in the 30 seconds it takes me to step round the door to fill up his water or finally get a wee alone. Doesn’t matter if we’ve seen other people later in the day. Doesn’t do it for anyone else. I don’t wanna hear don’t see her again okay I know if this is how he’s reacting to her it’s not good, please don’t, it’s my mother I’ve already not got a dad. What the hell do I do other than remove her.