Bedtime blues

My daughter is 10 months old and every bed time I get filled with dread. She goes to sleep and without fail will wake 45mins-1 hour. It can then take up to an hour to transition her into her cot, yesterday I resettled her 5 times in 90 minutes. I’m exhausted. I’ve tried different sleeping sacks, making sure she’s not too hot/cold, earlier bed times, later bed times. It gets to a point I’m exhausted, go to bed at 9pm and when she wakes again (usually around 10) I just cosleep. I feel like I’m failing. Help.

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No advice really but just here to tell you it gets better!! We went through this at exactly 10 months. She would scream like she was scared of her cot. We ended up just going to co sleep - she’d always start in her cot. We all got sleep that way, as it’s a developmental thing for sure - snacks, temp, later bedtimes likely won’t help (from experience).

She’s now 19 months and sleeps through most nights, some nights she still comes in with us for cuddles! But I promise it gets better, you’re not failing at all, you’re just your daughters safe place x

Thank you so much - I know I shouldn’t but I do compare to those online who claim their babies sleep through haha. I also don’t think my husband fully understands how difficult it is and I’m putting extra pressure on

Ever since my daughter was 8 months for the last 4 months my daughter would go to bed in her cot and then wake up 1 hour later and then would refuse to go back to sleep in her cot and I would need to co sleep with her. 3 weeks ago I decided to change her routine up and sit by her cot and lie her down awake and she was asleep in her cot within 20 minutes and she didn’t wake up until 4am and I done the exact same thing. The morning after she started crawling, the development makes a huge impact in their sleep and I thought was it something I was doing and now I can put my daughter down awake and walk out of the room and she will fall asleep and sleep through the night. Trust me I didn’t think it could get better, I would cry every night as I was doing it on my own but it does get better and you’re not doing anything wrong x

You're not failing. Ever since the 4 month regression, we've been cosleeping cause my lo just would not go.down in her cot again. It happens to a lot of us. Babies like to have their mums close. I know it's exhausting sometimes but it won't be forever. Stay strong and don't blame yourself 🫶
More recently (11 months) we started slowly transitioning her back, but we're taking small steps (we opened the side of her cot and aligned it with our mattress, so that she can cuddle up with us at any point - that way she gets used to the cot again and there is no separation anxiety about it).

This is us since 6 months too, he’s 10 months now and still doing it. Even co sleeping sometimes doesn’t settle him he needs either pacing or feeding depending on how long it’s been or if he woke spooked maybe a nightmare

You’re not failing! We had similar at certain times and co slept until about 14 months, ended up having to do sleep training (which i hated) but it did solve our problem x

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I need some serious help

I’ve been tracking and noticed a pattern, every time we see my mum, sleep, our the window, doesn’t matter how asleep he is before I put him down or how well he was sleeping before, if they’re alone for even 2 seconds he just screams the second he is put down and I leave the room, he didn’t do this after it was my mum and my brother in the room and I left for 2 seconds, only if it’s only her. Every single time, nap time is a 3 hour screaming match, I cannot cope, how do I get him back to his system, he has to have it so specific or it ruins night sleep. What the hell has she done to him in the 30 seconds it takes me to step round the door to fill up his water or finally get a wee alone. Doesn’t matter if we’ve seen other people later in the day. Doesn’t do it for anyone else. I don’t wanna hear don’t see her again okay I know if this is how he’s reacting to her it’s not good, please don’t, it’s my mother I’ve already not got a dad. What the hell do I do other than remove her.

I feel like a awful mother

It might be weird but long story short while cleaning by accident a plastic basket ended up on the cooker and start smoking the rooms. (Studio flat so smoke everywhere)
I got rid of the smoke pretty quickly and it wasn’t bad enough to trigger the fire alarm but I have been crying for the past 3 hours because the baby was in the house and I feel awful of how can I make such a stupid mistake. What if anything worse would’ve happened to the baby. What if the smoke affected him in any way. (He s alert,feeding and totally fine so far) but I can’t settle the feeling that I’m a terrible mother and I put him in danger.
My partner is keep trying to reassure me that it was just an accident and could’ve happened to anyone but I just start crying over and over again…

How often are people bathing their babies?

My LO is 3.5months old, we bath her once a week, maybe twice, unless its been really hot and shes been sweating, or she need it from spitting up on herself

Just curious how often others are bathing their babies

Independent sleeping and naps

What’s the best age/months to start sleep training your little one? My baby is 3 months old and has always been a bit of a velcro baby. We do contact naps all the time and also co-sleep at night.

When she was a newborn, she could sleep for long stretches in her cot swaddled, but since she hit around 2 months, she’s become very clingy. I know we’re not creating bad habits this early, but any helpful tips on how to gently encourage independent sleep for naps and night-time would be great.

She loves her Love to Dream sleep sack at night and we also use white noise.

nursery, work and toddler

what is everyone doing with nursery and working? Me and husband both work full time. Today is the last settling in day at nursery but we’re doing the 30hours so we’re taking her half days. My little one is 14 months.

I’m looking after her whilst trying to wfh in the morning, settling her in nursery is emotionally draining as it is and then trying to work in a nearby cafe after is so hard.

I don’t know how I can sustain this lifestyle of wfh in mornings with her she’s so active, and very needy atm (my husband stays when he can but his job is onsite a lot).I’m typing this as she’s refusing to take her nap 🙂🙂🙂

How is everyone tackling this?

Cows milk at 9 months?

So we just got back from our 9 month checkup and our ped told us we can start cows milk, we don’t need formula anymore because he’s eating food well and he’s a good weight so no need to add more calories from the formula

I don’t feel 100% confident in his answer about cows milk but want to see what everyone else thinks.

After the appointment on our way to breakfast I looked some forums up on Google and they said little sips are fine but moving over to primarily cows milk is not good because of course the nutritional factor and it can cause intestinal bleeding.

Please let me know your thoughts!!