What kind of support would have helped you most during your postpartum period?

Honestly if I were rich a night nanny. Even just for one of the feeds to allow me a solid sleep 💀

I have a biweekly cleaner but postpartum she came once a week.

She’d come in, change my bedding then order me to bed. I’d wake up to a sparkling house, beds made, laundry folded, bottles sterilised, coffee made.

She made all the difference in the world as a C-section mum with no family here and a husband working. I just didn’t have to worry about things for a few months. She’d listen out for baby whilst I showered, steam mop everything down, pick up toddler toys.

Definitely housework, and yet it’s the one thing no one offers to help with.

My sister in law made us some home made meals and it honestly helped us sooo much that we didn’t have to think about cooking for the first couple of weeks ☺️

I would say someone to talk to and just come by the house food/coffee is always welcome but never requirement for me! However, I appreciated a friend coming over w/dinner. At one point I made a comment about how the playroom is such a disorganized mess, how it’s driving me nuts, and how I’ll do it later cause I’m enjoying her company. So later during her visit I went to the bathroom leaving her to watch my snoozing baby in the mosses basket when I came back all the toys and books that were scattered everywhere were away and organized. That was very much appreciated I cried and told she didn’t have to do that but I surely appreciate it. Another friend offered help during her visit and I mentioned that the dishes and bottles needed to be done before I could even finish the sentence. She went straight to the kitchen and told me to sit with my baby. So we sat at the breakfast nook and just chatted while SHE unloaded, loaded the dishwasher, AND moved the laundry to the dryer 😭

I’ll take “all of the above”

Hard on the housework.
I do my own postpartum meal prep (20+ 9x13 frozen pans plus muffins, egg muffins, and pepperoni rolls), so cooking isn't a huge issue.
But cleaning up, laundry, dishes that would be so helpful

My mom would come sleep over once a week. It allowed my husband and I to get one solid night of good sleep and I swear it would perk me up for 2-3 days 😅 it was a godsend. I would set up the pumped milk, bottle warmer, etc and have everything ready for her. It was like a free night nurse lol.

Definitely housework/ cooking with baby 3😭 I was cooking and cleaning the night I was discharged for the hospital and still hasn’t stopped lol😂😂

thank you so much for your comments…it’s really interesting isn’t it , the things guests don’t think will make a difference is actually what we need as mums and it makes massive difference to our wellbeing.

I don’t know about you but i will happily have a guest come in empty handed and instead help me with the house work or even bring along home cooked food or even watch the baby in order to get some good uninterrupted sleep.

For anyone with more than one child, was there anything in particular that was done which made a difference like a friend/family take your toddler out for couple of hours so you can focus on your baby?

Housework, assistance at night, and lactation help.

Papsicle. These were my life. Take an overnight pad, but some which hazel and some aloe on it. Fold it back up and then stick them in the freezer. It helped my healing process tremendously.

The first time meal prep took me a week or so. This time my mom is coming to help so we're trying to get it done in 3-4 days

First kid I was a single mom living at my dads taking care of baby and my dad (cooking for and cleaning after dad) and honestly i just wanted someone to cook.
My second his dad is around but works during the day so I wish I had someone that could play with my oldest or hold the baby so I can get stuff done