Please help!
So my partner, 4 year old kiddo and I were having a movie. During the movie my partner starts doing math with kiddo and pulls his phone out to record the cuteness. Kifdo brcomes disregulated and starts hitting, punching and head butting me.
My partner asked him to stop once, ai tried to stop hom and when I couldn't I removed hom from my lap firmly, possibly to firmly because he ended up falling over.
It looked like I pushed him but I didn't.
My partner snapped at me that "I know he hit but there was no need to push him". I told him that he actually also punched and head butted me. I told him I didn't push him and I didn't mean to even make it look like I had.
My partner said "enjoy your movie" and walked out of the room.
Our kiddo said his bottom hurt so I opened my arms for a cuddle and he came over and we snuggled and apologised to each other and I was crying.
He then went to see my partner who kept asking if he was ok. He was and is perfectly fine.
I asked him to delete the video via text as he went straight back to his gaming desk and I came into the bedroom, and he hasn't responded.
I am angry at myself for reacring that way to our kiddo, I am frustrated and upset that he hurt me and I am upset that my partner doesn't seem to care.
How can I be a better mum to my kiddo? Or do I just have to walk away?
I hate myself, am miserable and don't even want look at my partner.
Screen time
I have a 3-month-old and so far I haven’t allowed any screen time, and I don’t plan to introduce it anytime soon.
That said, I know there are some educational and low-stimulation programmes for older children, and I don’t want her to miss out on anything that could benefit her speech or learning. At the same time, I really don’t want her to become dependent on screens or develop behaviour issues because of too much screen time.
For those with older little ones, when did you introduce screen time? Did you choose certain programmes or set limits? I’d love to hear what worked for your family and whether you felt it had any positive (or negative) impacts
Am I too petty?
I have been with my partner 4 years and older kids with my ex husband of 10 years an younger kids to him. Every birthday, christmas, valentines, mothers day, anniversary theres been some problem/excuse or he aint had no time or money to make no effort or get nothing (he has had tome and money as pointed out at the time) it didnt improve.. but this year it hit me because my son was crying saying sorry mummy I wanted to get you something but I couldnt ask my dad as his far away and "stepdad" said he didnt have time when I asked him last week so I got this card n we saved our change and got you your favourite cookies and I cried too I aint gonna lie as didnt think they notice as much as they do. It hurt that he hurt them through it.. so his fathers day I got some cute daddy teddy n some chocolate n dad socks nothing like expensive or really nice but from the kids.. hes been an arsehole today his dad coming over n I didnt get a good enough present for him ( some grandad gifts from the kids ) worse too my ex coming to get the older ones for the day but last min as thought he was coming next week so only had a card for him from the kids at this point..so I decide why should I? Like I booked a big table for all of us late a meal with his parents and got the grandad gifts.. not good enough and wrote a poem for his dad about grandad from the kids n framed it too.. so I got the "dad gifts" the bear the chocolates the socks n I gave my boys the older kids them n said give them to dad from you when he comes n all sign this card. Little boy made a card too n they did.. off they went all happy.. what he doesnt realise is theres no gifts for him and I have daddy cards and stepdad ones too but im not sure I should give them because I dont wanna be too petty here nut where was mine, birthday, valentines, christmas, anniversary like where was mine... his birthday soon too next month
