Am i right to think this is unreasonable
My ex and i have 5.5month baby boy..
He sees him for 1.5 hrs each week (if that) at my sisters supervised because he nowhere near capable of caring for him alone. He cant change a nappy, hes dropped him multiple times (luckily my sister caught him everytime). When he was tiny he couldnt hold him safely and nearly snapped his neck a few times by letting his head fall right back. These are just a few things. Hes not aloud him alone as my son is dimply not safe with him and he also is not aload to drive with my son due to his dangerous driving. 3 serious crashes, countless near misses with cars and pedestrians, speeding, and simply lack of awarness. Hes should noy have a licence ( high up police officer i know said this)
Hes emotionally abusive and a down right bully that doesnt like the word no.
Hes now asking my sister to ask me gor any days out i have planned so he can come along too..firstly our son has absolutely no clue about anything yey and will more than likely be asleep, secondly he makes me so anxious, thurdky why on earth would i want to spebd my family time with someone who was abusive and caused me so much grief.
His reasoning is because i let my daughters dad in my house and we take her out sometimes...so i should also allow him round and allow him to come on days out. I have very minimal contact with my sons dad because i said hes a bully.
Pleaee someone confirm this is unreasonable.
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This isn't unreasonable. How is he dropping a child when changing a nappy letting them roll off a table? Make him change them on the floor on a matt.
Has this man got learning problems or just a nutter?
I'd let him tag along but honestly do all the work girl hopefully he'll slowly drift out of the picture if his genuinely unsafe for your child to be around and causing so much anxiety
bin him
So sorry your going through this! He doesn’t sound like someone who should have any extra responsibilities or time, the baby is still so young. There is plenty of time for days out in the future! Not supporting a babies head is so careless I was horrified reading that, no excuses for that 😭
No full stop not unreasonable best bit of advice I can give you is go to citizens advice and be honest but neutral with what you are saying and they will confirm what you are doing is not wrong and will tell you how to manage it if needed z
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