Husband made a tinder account

So I found out my husband made a tinder account and was messaging women that he wanted to fuck them.
My response was I told him to leave he didn’t leave instead he broke down and said he’s got so much going on in his head and too much pressure one of his parents nearly died, I haven’t been giving him attention and I’ve been cold ( his words)
I’ve caught him in the past talking to other women so this has now happened 3 times over 10yrs

So I ask him to do anything around the house he says yes never does it. I’m the main care giver to twins and a toddler
Everyday he finishes work and sometimes helps feed the kids and put them to bed but hardly sits with me to have dinner just goes and plays his games console. I ask him to sit with me and he says he wants to unwind so I sit downstairs alone watching my shows and he plays his games.
I also work 5 days a week and do pick up and drop offs our kids go to different schools so he does one drop of I do the other.

He said he hasn’t cheated and just wanted the attention. I replied I would love attention aswell but you don’t ever see me talking to another man to make myself feel good. I find this as an act of cheating and I really don’t deserve this only thing stopping me from leaving him is my children and I’ve been with him for 12 yrs and still do love him.

He said he will get councilling for himself which I suggested then couples.

He keeps saying I need to take accountability aswell so I feel like he’s blaming me for what he’s done.

I’m just disgusted he could speak to another women that way and I feel so disappointed and disrespected.

I need some advise as I’m at a crossroad

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I’m I wrong

So my mom just passed away from cancer last Tuesday, it was a horrible good bye. My husband has been very supportive, financially and being at home keeping the family together. I can tell it is getting to him, yesterday we had a small celebration with the kids , today is Father’s Day I feel bad but I really don’t feel like celebrating anything, I do want to go to church and out to eat with him to celebrate but he is upset that I didn’t plan anything else. I’m I wrong ?! I just feel so depressed and have no energy for anything.

What do I do

My and my partner recently found out I’m pregnant after we’ve been trying for 2 years but I’m being put in a difficult position as my family don’t seem to think my partner is good enough for me. They pick faults with him and constantly point out he isn’t working atm. He has been working on and off during our relationship but he became my carer as I have a brain disorder but he never asks me for money or spends his money on himself but my family thinks he should give all his money to me. I have spoken to my partner about this and he is actively looking for jobs and just wants to prove them wrong but it really upsets me and Iv spoken to them about this but it always seems to come back around. What do I do?

I gave him Father’s Day and instead of enjoying the day with his kids, he spent it sending angry messages to me

Yes this is a venting post. Today was supposed to be my day with our kids. But because it was Father’s Day, I told their father to spend the day with them. Instead of a thank you or just simply enjoying the day with them, he gets mad at our 3 month old for being too “difficult” for him and “causing” him to cancel the fishing trip he had planned for our eldest (7). Then proceeded to send angry text messages to me about canceling said fishing trip. He then demanded a do over tomorrow. Fine whatever. And I told him that’s fine because that is your actual assigned day. But you still have to take the baby because that’s part of the parenting agreement. Which made him even more angry. He then said he’s getting his girlfriend to babysit. I told him if he trust her that much with our baby then OK. And apparently that made him more mad because now he’s saying, I am a neglectful mother for allowing his girlfriend to babysit. The whole conversation resulted in him canceling tomorrow completely. Am I wrong for making him take the baby when it is his day to have both kids? When I have the kids, it’s up to me to have childcare sorted out. Why should this be any different?

Am I the problem

My husband has been in bed all day. He is acting like he can’t moves. This is his third day off so it’s not like he hasn’t had time to rest. He slept all day Friday most of the day yesterday and then just won’t get out of bed today. He just wants to sit on his phone. I get he works nights and is tired I also get that it is Father’s Day. But like you want to ignore your child all Father’s Day?!? She’s just a year and a half he complains that he never gets to spend time with us because he’s at work all the time so then why shut us out? It’s weird

Egg strike ?

Okay, so I am in trouble lol
Eggs are such a staple here, it was such an important breakfast item (omelettes, quiche, scrambled, frittata, etc) and even when you need a quick fix for dinner. My daughter used to love eggs and would not have enough.

A couple days ago, she just showed me that she doesn’t want to have anything to do with eggs, like it’s illegal now 😭😩🤣 (she is 15mo turning 16 soon)

Helppppp, what am I supposed to cook for breakfast now ? Any ideas ?

Also, did this happen to your baby too? Did it pass ?