I fall out of love more and more everyday

Somehow I started feeling more like my husbands mother or maid than his wife. I slowly dislike him more and more every day. I get annoyed at things I used to think were cute. I don’t want him touching me, I’m not really interested in trying so hard for him anymore, and I have zero sex drive.

I told him I can’t do this anymore and he promises to give him time and he can fix it, and I want to believe him but I know he can’t. I feel like mentally I already separated and that emotional tether has been severed.

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If you feel like you are emotionally done and you know in your heart the attraction is gone I'd say file for divorce, rather than drag it on and on. Also follow up question.... Are there children involved?

Love is a choice and yes you are proving this point. I don't mean for this to sound judgemental or anything. You are just proving my point. At this point if you don't think things can be fixed it easy just to let go.
I mean this could be a thing that he didn't know you felt this way do give him a chance to change. Marriage is work and it takes two to make it work. I say go to counseling and see if there is something there that can be fixed. Feelings can change and fluctuate. Make the choice to stay married and work at the relationship to keep it strong. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Up to you, really.

I know exactly how you feel, I have two babies 24months and 11months and I feel like i have extra man toodler, I deal with the kids I have to deal with him im exhausted after looking after his kids, and he be like my feet hurt will you rub them, I cook clean pay for everything at the home, all the bills his money he keeps for himself, I pay for family holdays for our babies he never put his hand in his pocket, I feel like his mum or a slave to him. Honestly he grown 47 year old. It's a put off. There no sense in him, he sot watch the tv all day he does work but for himself as he never given me penny for anything he living life if luxury. I've had enough this why there way there always arguments. Because it so frustrating there no appreciation or love or little help. 1 week ago I sent him back to his mums house and haven't spoken to him since, n9w his mother can do everything for him. As she does anyway. But he does smoke weed which honeslty I hate. Im non smoker myself. I've given him so many chances.

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I’m I wrong

So my mom just passed away from cancer last Tuesday, it was a horrible good bye. My husband has been very supportive, financially and being at home keeping the family together. I can tell it is getting to him, yesterday we had a small celebration with the kids , today is Father’s Day I feel bad but I really don’t feel like celebrating anything, I do want to go to church and out to eat with him to celebrate but he is upset that I didn’t plan anything else. I’m I wrong ?! I just feel so depressed and have no energy for anything.

What do I do

My and my partner recently found out I’m pregnant after we’ve been trying for 2 years but I’m being put in a difficult position as my family don’t seem to think my partner is good enough for me. They pick faults with him and constantly point out he isn’t working atm. He has been working on and off during our relationship but he became my carer as I have a brain disorder but he never asks me for money or spends his money on himself but my family thinks he should give all his money to me. I have spoken to my partner about this and he is actively looking for jobs and just wants to prove them wrong but it really upsets me and Iv spoken to them about this but it always seems to come back around. What do I do?

I gave him Father’s Day and instead of enjoying the day with his kids, he spent it sending angry messages to me

Yes this is a venting post. Today was supposed to be my day with our kids. But because it was Father’s Day, I told their father to spend the day with them. Instead of a thank you or just simply enjoying the day with them, he gets mad at our 3 month old for being too “difficult” for him and “causing” him to cancel the fishing trip he had planned for our eldest (7). Then proceeded to send angry text messages to me about canceling said fishing trip. He then demanded a do over tomorrow. Fine whatever. And I told him that’s fine because that is your actual assigned day. But you still have to take the baby because that’s part of the parenting agreement. Which made him even more angry. He then said he’s getting his girlfriend to babysit. I told him if he trust her that much with our baby then OK. And apparently that made him more mad because now he’s saying, I am a neglectful mother for allowing his girlfriend to babysit. The whole conversation resulted in him canceling tomorrow completely. Am I wrong for making him take the baby when it is his day to have both kids? When I have the kids, it’s up to me to have childcare sorted out. Why should this be any different?

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I feel like my marriage is been push to the limits and everything irritates me since my baby was born 8 months ago. Sometimes I think is not worth saving and will be better if I did everything on my own. I love him but I feel arguments are happening multiple times times a day at the minute not sure how to feel or do 😔

Am I the problem

My husband has been in bed all day. He is acting like he can’t moves. This is his third day off so it’s not like he hasn’t had time to rest. He slept all day Friday most of the day yesterday and then just won’t get out of bed today. He just wants to sit on his phone. I get he works nights and is tired I also get that it is Father’s Day. But like you want to ignore your child all Father’s Day?!? She’s just a year and a half he complains that he never gets to spend time with us because he’s at work all the time so then why shut us out? It’s weird