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I’ve found motherhood so much harder than I ever could have imagined. We had IVF for our little boy but I feel so lost and finding it so relentless. I always envisaged at least 2 children and feel sad at the thought of my son growing up without a sibling but i don’t know if I could do it again and extend this already really tough period of my life. Any advice? Did anyone feel the same, have another anyway and feel it was the right thing in retrospect?

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I’ve felt the same way but I’m loving being a toddler mum (apart from the tantrums) the baby bit lasted such a short while in retrospect despite it feeling like forever. Now I can see there is life on the other side we’re going for baby #2 and I’m actually excited about it. I’m definitely in it for the long game. I just want that typical house full at Christmas, birthdays etc… god willing. But yes it is tough and I have questioned if it’s worth it at times. Just sit with it for a bit longer because my opinion changed one day out of the blue. Xxx

Also an ivf mum and also finding this harder than expected but also finding that its getting more fun and rewarding by the month. How old is your little one? Do you have embryos stored?
We have a 7 month waiting list for treatment (even self funded) so have taken a leap of faith and added ourselves to the list. Our little girl is 8 months x

No embryos stored. Our boy is 15 months and is just non stop. Sometimes I feel like he’s just too much for me and my nervous system can’t take it. I’m hoping it improves when he can talk more

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I honestly can’t believe my husband right now. He flat out said that the fact that women who are getting older makes it more difficult to get pregnant makes it imperative to start trying to have kids (or more of them) if you want more, regardless of if if you are feeling ready for them because it’s more difficult every year

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Have another?

I’ve found motherhood so much harder than I ever could have imagined. We had IVF for our little boy but I feel so lost and finding it so relentless. I always envisaged at least 2 children and feel sad at the thought of my son growing up without a sibling but i don’t know if I could do it again and extend this already really tough period of my life. Any advice? Did anyone feel the same, have another anyway and feel it was the right thing in retrospect?

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Is this negative?

Is there a faint line or no?

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Hate the wait!

Hate the wait to test, I’m 9 DPO took a test and was negative… feeling so many symptoms atm 😭😩

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Would you allow a relative without any experience of looking after children to take your just turned 3 year old out without you?

For context, he is my brother, 30 years old and no kids or experience with kids. He has offered to take my son out so I can catch some rest while pregnant, but we don't see him regularly as he lives a couple hours away and is often busy. I don't know if it is pregnancy hormones but I feel anxious about him taking my kid out as I feel he doesn't understand enough about how to keep a toddler safe (roads, hazards, choking, etc).

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Faint positive?

My period is due today, was negative at first glance then after a couple of mins I felt like I could see a line?? Could it be a faulty test / evaporation line or faint positive?

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Have another?

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Hate the wait!

Would you allow a relative without any experience of looking after children to take your just turned 3 year old out without you?

Faint positive?