Talking to baby
Hi I may be being silly however sometimes I feel I don’t bond with my baby the same way other people do. I can’t even explain what I mean or how I feel,
Sometimes I just feel though like I don’t talk to him enough or play with him enough, it’s exhausting. I feel I’m not doing a good job and could have done better. I try my best to meet all of his needs and everyone tells me how he’s always smiley and happy. If I’m doing chores I take him with me and let him watch etc. When he gets sad or won’t settle he prefers to have me, doesn’t ever settle for anyone else (I did see as a positive because surely this means he loves me and feels safe/bonded).
However sometimes like for example if we’re eating lunch, I find myself panicked because I’ll sort of zone back in and I’m like oh gosh we’re just sat and I’m not talking entertaining etc. then I wonder am I a bad mum because we’re eating lunch in silence😭
I don’t know if I maybe have a bit of PPD / anxiety or overwhelmed. Nothing major but I wonder if this is affecting how I feel. Also it’s a lot trying to talk sing play all of the time that when I find myself have a quiet moment for 20 minutes where I’m not doing all of the above I feel as though am I neglecting him?
Do you talk to your babies all the time?
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I have exactly the same anxieties and it’s rough. Sending you loads of love, I’m sure if you’re even worrying about it it means you’re a great mum ❤️
You don't need to entertain them when they're eating, they can focus on their food better then too. It's perfectly fine for him to watch you cleaning, they can also do some independent play. You absolutely don't have to spend every waking second entertaining your baby and it'd be exhausting to do it. I work from home and look after my baby so quite often she plays by herself for a bit, we eat together, she has a couple of naps, and I play with her too. Not entertaining them constantly gives them time to learn and grow by themselves which is just as important 😊
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