Unsure about pregnancy

Found out at just over 3 weeks I was pregnant with our 2nd and am now 5. Spent the last of these few weeks questioning if I really want to go ahead with it. I’ve got none of the excitement and happiness I experienced with our 1st. And even though this is a planned pregnancy I’m questioning everything about it working out, finances etc. bought a 3 bed house this year and I’m not overly happy with it as it’s too small and I can’t imagine there being 4 of us in it. I love the little life we have and everything mostly runs smoothly. My 1yr old is like my little best friend and I’d feel so guilty for him and I worry how the impact would be on him. I’ve got no one I can talk too as I’m scared to tell my mum as despite having 3 of her own she keeps trying to put me off having another yet so I don’t think I’d get the right support from her. My husband is excited and said he’d be gutted if we didn’t but supports me no matter what. I’m definitely not done at 1 and I want my lo to have a sibling. I’m so torn and confused 😫

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I’m I wrong

So my mom just passed away from cancer last Tuesday, it was a horrible good bye. My husband has been very supportive, financially and being at home keeping the family together. I can tell it is getting to him, yesterday we had a small celebration with the kids , today is Father’s Day I feel bad but I really don’t feel like celebrating anything, I do want to go to church and out to eat with him to celebrate but he is upset that I didn’t plan anything else. I’m I wrong ?! I just feel so depressed and have no energy for anything.

What do I do

My and my partner recently found out I’m pregnant after we’ve been trying for 2 years but I’m being put in a difficult position as my family don’t seem to think my partner is good enough for me. They pick faults with him and constantly point out he isn’t working atm. He has been working on and off during our relationship but he became my carer as I have a brain disorder but he never asks me for money or spends his money on himself but my family thinks he should give all his money to me. I have spoken to my partner about this and he is actively looking for jobs and just wants to prove them wrong but it really upsets me and Iv spoken to them about this but it always seems to come back around. What do I do?

I gave him Father’s Day and instead of enjoying the day with his kids, he spent it sending angry messages to me

Yes this is a venting post. Today was supposed to be my day with our kids. But because it was Father’s Day, I told their father to spend the day with them. Instead of a thank you or just simply enjoying the day with them, he gets mad at our 3 month old for being too “difficult” for him and “causing” him to cancel the fishing trip he had planned for our eldest (7). Then proceeded to send angry text messages to me about canceling said fishing trip. He then demanded a do over tomorrow. Fine whatever. And I told him that’s fine because that is your actual assigned day. But you still have to take the baby because that’s part of the parenting agreement. Which made him even more angry. He then said he’s getting his girlfriend to babysit. I told him if he trust her that much with our baby then OK. And apparently that made him more mad because now he’s saying, I am a neglectful mother for allowing his girlfriend to babysit. The whole conversation resulted in him canceling tomorrow completely. Am I wrong for making him take the baby when it is his day to have both kids? When I have the kids, it’s up to me to have childcare sorted out. Why should this be any different?

Am I the problem

My husband has been in bed all day. He is acting like he can’t moves. This is his third day off so it’s not like he hasn’t had time to rest. He slept all day Friday most of the day yesterday and then just won’t get out of bed today. He just wants to sit on his phone. I get he works nights and is tired I also get that it is Father’s Day. But like you want to ignore your child all Father’s Day?!? She’s just a year and a half he complains that he never gets to spend time with us because he’s at work all the time so then why shut us out? It’s weird

Baby in bedroom during intimate time

Hello, I really don't want this to be controversial. I understand that we can never know what goes on in a little humans brain or what they will remember.

That being said, I have a 16 month old. And we are trying for another baby. We live with my elderly mom but our bedrooms are on the opposite side of the house. To avoid her hearing us or knowing what's going on we shut the door. My baby has separation anxiety so she would cry the whole time if we locked her out or put her in her playpen. Telling my mom or asking her to watch my baby would be more awkward for us than having her in the room, and we cant exactly afford a hotel or a sitter so she is in there with us. We play a baby video for her and give her lots of toys to play with and she does. She ignores us. I wish I had a better solution.