Help!! Heart broken! 3months only married
I can't cope, partner of a little over a year, married 3months, found out he's been cheating on me, pretending to be someone else on loads of social media accounts, denied being physically, mentally mentally abusive towards his ex’s, claimed he's only ever cheated on his ex wife once. Found out that he cheated on her their wholes relationship as well as other woman going back 15 years. Everyone told me to be careful, run don't walk from him. He only gave me half the truth on it all. I believed him, after coming out of another physical and mental abusive relationship, he knew what I was going through, he met my domestic abuse support worker!!!! And yet here i am, crying because I've fuck up once again!!! I don't feel I can truly talk openly to my friends, how do I explain that I'm crying because I should of seen this coming, I should of kept my guard up, I should of been more careful and I hate myself for allowing yet another man break my heart, my head, my family and home. I don't have a mum and dad, nan grandad to speak to either they are all gone. I feel so alone.
Boyfriend says he can’t trust me after cheating… I don’t want to give in to his demands
My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. I found out a few months ago that he’s been cheating for a year. I was completely blindsided and had no reason to suspect him. I agreed to stay and rebuild things, including my trust which has been completely damaged. I have been asking for more transparency and certain steps to help ease my anxiety (like location sharing, checking in when we arrive places, etc). He’s been doing a decent job at this so far, but I still have my doubts because he was so good at hiding it the first time, and his lies felt so natural. When he confronted me for being too hard on him, I shared this feeling, and he says he also feels insecure and untrusting of me, because he saw how easy it was to lie and hide another girlfriend from me for a year, and he knows I’m smarter than him so I could be doing the same and he’s just too dumb to catch on. He is demanding I change my phone number, delete my Snapchat, and cut off my male best friend, all of which I said no to. I use Snapchat to send photos of my kids to my college friends who now live overseas. I have had my phone number for over 15 years, and it tethered to authentication accounts within my professional life, as well as my business, and my male best friend has done nothing wrong, and my bf has admitted he doesn’t see him as a threat but feels this is “just what’s fair.” I personally feel like he’s just trying to assert some form of control back. I did remind him I wasn’t the one who cheated, but he says that since cheating occurred, it doesn’t matter who’s at fault, we both have a responsibility to restore each others trust and comfortability. Honestly, I feel like if I have to be punished for his actions and choices then I’m not interested in rebuilding. I still can’t see his phone, and I think as long as he changes his password daily, I’ll never fully trust him anyways.
Hire Handy Man over Incompetent Husband?
okay so, my neighborhood has a handyman guy who older ladies hire to help do tasks that a man would do like a husband like hang shelves, pictures, fix stuff etc. My husband has been very unsupportive of my school work and outing the child care on me, laundry on me, he doesn’t wash all the dishes I ask him to, he says he is tired from work and just lacks doing what I ask him to do. I ask for a picture to be hang doesn’t do it? I ask for handles to be put on drawers again doesn’t do it?
would I be an AH for hiring the handy guy to come and help me do stuff around the house?
