Teen daughter pregnant

Just found out my 15 year old is pregnant, I’m planning on kicking her out tomorrow morning. She is 7
Months and hid this for 7 months. I feel like a terrible mother for not noticing. I somewhat did notice she started covering up more kind of strange for the summer. It explains why she didn’t go to our small family gathering pool event. I asked about the child’s father, he is currently with another young woman and has my daughter blocked and will not talk to her. She’s my 2/3 child I’m not sure how to handle this.

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Why are u going to kick her out

I feel like you should be there for her since she’s not going to have anyone else…

Do not kick her out, that’s the least supportive and helpful thing to do. Please be compassionate and stick by her side during this difficult time. Talk to her and figure out a game plan. She needs your guidance now more than ever. Forget her past behavior and be the adult she needs.

Why the fuck are you kicking her out????! You clearly don’t give a shit about her wellbeing or her baby’s. You sound like an absolute witch and a terrible role model. Do better.

Sounds like she lied to you because she’s scared of your reaction. And she was right. You should feel bad and you are a terrible mother if you kick her out.

Fucking bitch

I feel like the last thing you should do is kick her out. Yeah she did wrong by hiding it. Yeah shes to young... but let's be real we all were doing things at that age. Whats done is done. The best thing you could do for her and that babys sake is help her through this and maybe discuss adoption or if she wants to keep it then explain to her all the responsibilities its going to come with. Dont start her off on the wrong foot by kicking her out and not giving her or that baby a safe space. Thats not right or fair to that baby.

Shitty situation that's true, but kicking her out kinda too much I guess... If she wasn't honest with you - well, seems this is kind of relationship you girls have, without trust and based on your reaction to kick her out - she wasn't wrong. Talk to this boy parents why it should be only your family problem

Why kick her out? I’d think about that because if it was reversed I bet it would’ve been different. Instead of kicking her out why don’t you be there and support her instead of discouraging her.

We lie because we are scared of one’s reaction, it’s human nature. Don’t blow up on her and she will come to you more often. You can do this mama, she is still your baby and needs you.

If you kick her out and she becomes homeless you ARE a terrible mother. She’s a child about to give birth to a child. It’s not going to teach her a lesson. It’s going to make her feel abandoned.

Why the hell would you kick out a young girl that is 7 months pregnant?????????? She needs you! How awful

Jeez I know why she hid it from you for so long! Poor thing was probably terrified of this exact thing happening.
Serious question, you kick her out and where does she have to go?

Quite certain in most regions of the world it is illegal to kick your 15 year old out.

She’s a minor.

Honestly you should feel like a terrible mother for even thinking of kicking her out.
Yes shes a young mum
Yes its going to be hard but we all make mistakes. But kicking her out will not teach her a lesson its just going to prove to her she cant rely on you as a mum

I had my baby at 17 and I was terrified my mum would do that but she dident she is very supportive and loves my baby and her accepting it helps a lot more then you think, but how I would think of it is do you really want your daughter and grand baby on the streets you never know what will happen to them I mean I hate to say it but a new born baby on the streets won’t last long I know you arnt happy about it but is that really worth them dieing Becuse that is what most likely to happen and I’m sorry to say all that I just want what’s best for your daughter and her baby you may not accept the pregnancy but plz think about what her life will be if you do it

You say you feel like a terrible mother, but you’re also going to kick her out???? You can be upset, about the pregnancy and the lying, but I’m sure she needs her mother’s support right now. And I’d be talking to her about why she felt she couldn’t come to me in the first place, without yelling. Pregnant women, no matter their age, need support. She probably feels scared and obviously guilty if she waited so long to tell you.

Think about your daughter right now before making any decisions that can/will permanently change your relationship with her.

I don't think you should kick her out...get the baby tested and blow that guy's family up to get that child support. His semen helped create that child and he needs to help support it!! You need to be there for your child more now than ever. She only hid it from you because she was afraid. And she had every right to be if your first reaction is to kick her out. Yes she was irresponsible but guess what momma. That falls on you. I'm not judging with this. These are just facts.

With all the kindness I can muster, if you kick her out you will prove she was right to lie to you because she was scared of your reaction. She needs her mom right now, probably more than ever. Idk anything about her sex education in your home, but if her baby daddy blocked her it’s possible he took advantage of her and she didn’t know what to do. There is so much nuance here. Have you asked her what her plans are? There is a way to discuss how wrong her actions were without shame or anger. I can only imagine how frustrated and overwhelmed you are with this but try to imagine being in her shoes. Teens frontal lobes aren’t fully developed, consequences are not something they have a perfect handle on. She probably can’t imagine what this is going to mean for her. She needs help and love and grace and THEN you can address the lying and respect owed to you. If you kick her out and cut her off you’ll be proving you don’t deserve that.

She knows it isn’t okay which is why she hid it. She will continue to learn it isn’t okay bc of how this will make her grow up very fast, you don’t have to teach her a lesson. The lesson will be for the rest of her life and you can guide her along the way so that your grandbaby has a better future. Unfortunately when you become a mother it’s no longer about you, it’s about your child. She has a few months left of being a child so make some happy memories in a challenging time. Talk to the kids parents, look into government assistance, use this platform to find more resources. You can do this and your daughter can’t do this without you.

What is kicking her out going to do? she’s already pregnant . You can be a supportive mother and help her find resources. Of course you can’t do every single thing for her since she made her own decisions but what you can do is support her and be the best grandma to your grandchild,
babies are blessings.

She’s your daughter. This is a hard situation but ultimately she should come first.

Kicking her out will not change the fact that she’s pregnant. She doesn’t need a consequence for this. She’s 15 and about to have a baby. It’s going to be hard enough.

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Sometimes I just feel though like I don’t talk to him enough or play with him enough, it’s exhausting. I feel I’m not doing a good job and could have done better. I try my best to meet all of his needs and everyone tells me how he’s always smiley and happy. If I’m doing chores I take him with me and let him watch etc. When he gets sad or won’t settle he prefers to have me, doesn’t ever settle for anyone else (I did see as a positive because surely this means he loves me and feels safe/bonded).

However sometimes like for example if we’re eating lunch, I find myself panicked because I’ll sort of zone back in and I’m like oh gosh we’re just sat and I’m not talking entertaining etc. then I wonder am I a bad mum because we’re eating lunch in silence😭

I don’t know if I maybe have a bit of PPD / anxiety or overwhelmed. Nothing major but I wonder if this is affecting how I feel. Also it’s a lot trying to talk sing play all of the time that when I find myself have a quiet moment for 20 minutes where I’m not doing all of the above I feel as though am I neglecting him?
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Anyone able to give me some advice of how to handle this and what to do coz I’m at my wits end. Me and my partner are at each others throats coz I can’t say anything when it comes to his mum without it causing an argument.

I’m so bloody fed up at this point and sick of not being listened to and arguing constantly with my partner and his mum coz nothing I do is right and he can do no wrong

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